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PRAYER: From the Qur’an, Umm Salamah’s verses (Surah 33:35):“Lo! Men who surrender unto God, and women who surrender,
AFFIRMATION OF FAITH: Women’s Work, Clare TilsonI was watching TV with my grandfather while my grandmother scooted around cleaning. I asked him if he ever helped her and he said that THAT was Women’s Work. He didn’t just mean that being traditional was his way of life. He meant to convey that he was superior to that sort of work. Yow. This was the first time I’d heard the term, Women’s Work. Since then, the term has been redefined for me. As a graduate student of Animal Behavior, a professor asked if I thought the traditional parenting roles taken on by men and women were influenced more by nature or nurture. I gave an answer that Gloria Steinum would have been pleased with. In short, such behavior was mostly learned. But he politely disagreed; that there must be quite a bit of hard wiring to such a behavioral pattern since it was so prevalent among animals. I chaffed at the way his logic bound me to a certain life. Ha! Now, I am immersed in the reproductive part of life where men’s and women’s roles tend to polarize. I have to say that this women’s work feels pretty hard-wired, and is the most perfect fit for who I am of anything I have ever done. And, contrary to what my grandfather thinks, life as a stay-at-home mommy is far from inferior, menial work. In fact, it is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I bet he couldn’t do it. But, there were other times in my life where I have done women’s work or witnessed the benefit of women’s work and wisdom. Davidson sent me a New York Times article about cutting-edge scientists examining personality in animals. He sent the article to me because I had once told him about the personalities I had come to admire in my study animals when I was a master’s student. My study animals weren’t cats or dogs or something charismatic like that. They were moths. Big moths that I had to hold and hand-feed every day. Some were more fearful, some were gutsy fighters, and some were quicker at learning the routine. I still remember one moth in particular. She had long outlived her experimental usefulness, but I continued to feed her every day because I had grown fond of her. She was exceptionally sweet-tempered. I remember telling my advisor about my observations. He was incredulous and condescending. Whatever. I was right. Now, studying animal personalities is cutting edge. And there are plenty of other female scientists influencing science. I remember hearing a seminar on befuddling bird hierarchies. They couldn’t figure out why one male was top bird one week and then dirt the next. Until, that is, a female researcher looked at the same data and said, the hierarchy you seek is among the female birds. Male status was a function of which female the male associated with. So science is evolving under the influence of women’s work and wisdom. But what about business and politics and religion? I think women have even more room to do their work in these fields. And when they do, it’ll be amazing. Won’t you just love it when business is less about greed and more about making sure that one’s success is not at the expense of our children’s world? Won’t you just love it when there are no more wars, and the most aggressive thing that happens among nations is an occasional catty remark shot across the desks at the United Nations? And won’t you just love it when God is no longer used as a tool to justify violence and intolerance, and instead used to exemplify the nurturing, accepting, forgiving way we all could live? |