Creating Community

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
November 3, 2013

What kinds of things can we do to strengthen our community? Conversation, shared tasks, vulnerability, sacrifice, these are some of the elements of strong community. What makes a church a community for the people who belong to it?


 

How do you prepare for hard times? How do you protect your life against times when the rain dries up and the wind blows hard and everything is brittle and easily broken? When nourishment is hard to find and you aren’t sure you can face what’s coming next? If you are in that situation literally, what you need is to have a good deep well, a well that reaches way down to where there is nearly always water. Last month we had water communion, where we mingled our lives together by pouring water into the common bowl, talking about the places that fed our souls. Water is the basis for all life. Everything that breathes is largely made of water and needs water to live.

The poet Bryon says: “Til taught by pain, [we] really know not what good water is worth.” – Don Juan

On Friday we had a memorial service for Jenny Malin. She was rich in friends. Some of those friends were from her chalice circle here at First UU.

When we are in pain, or just in a long dry spell. Those things that sustain us – we don’t know what they are worth until we are in trouble. We need connections with people, friends, people who know not only our name but what moves us, what hurts us, what we love. Being here in this church community is a way of making connections, but Sunday morning is a time when having a conversation of any depth is hard.

One of the good opportunities here for building deep connections with people is our small group program – we call them Chalice Circles. In our Chalice Circles we talk together with 4-12 other people about big questions like

“What is an example of grace in your life?
When have you experienced a heartfelt truth, and how did it change your life?
What about your daily work do you find nourishing?
What is the meaning of life?
Why do we need religion?
Why evil?
How do we know what we know?
How can we face death?
Why do we suffer?
What does it mean to be human?”

The lessons have a structure for the purposes of sustainability and fairness. The format give us a way of structuring our interactions so that all of us, the quiet ones as well as the verbally quick, may be heard and made to feel a part of the whole. There is an opening reading. This is one from the topic of Listening:

I like to talk with you.

I like the way I feel
when you are listening
as if we were exploring
something in ourselves:

The plunge into a silence
and how you come up with words
I tried to find:

The otherness about us which makes
conversation possible.

When I talk with you,
the give turns into take
and borrow into lend.

Now and then, a phrase from you
will kindle like a shooting star;
the mornings in you rouse me from a sleep.

I like the babble and the banter when I greet you
at the door,
and when the room is filled with guests,
your quiet look,

as if there were a secret between us
of which nobody knows.

– from Raymond Baughan

After the opening reading, everyone briefly checks in, saying a few words about how they are that week. Then a bowl is passed around with lots of slips of paper with readings on them having to do with the topic of that lesson: forgiveness, hands, failure, hope, patriotism, views of God. After they are read, there are a few questions posed in the lesson. Participants choose one question or a few questions and talk about them in a time of sharing. Everyone gets a chance to talk, and no one interrupts or talks back to you or even asks you a question.

When you are through, they say “thank you.” That helps shy people feel safer sometimes. When everyone is through with what they wanted to say about the questions, there is a time of silence, where people just breathe together for a moment or two. Then the discussion starts, when you can comment on what someone said, ask questions, say what came to your mind as they were speaking.

There is a covenant of respectful behavior that is followed. Each group works out a covenant of how they want to be together, so there is kindness in the discussion, support, so no one person dominates the group. A facilitator is there to remind people of that, to hold the covenants in mind like a container for the group.

When the discussion is done, there is a check-out time. We usually say “How do you want us to hold you in mind this month?” It’s a way of getting to know and trust a few people you may never have otherwise had in your life. Another bonding experience is the service the Chalice Circles promise to perform together. One group painted the women’s restroom by the offices. Some might help set up or clean up after big events.

In order not to form cliques, the groups run for a year and then re-form, to keep attention on the fact that there are always more people who may want to be there, and that the groups will grow and change. Chalice circles are one way in which First UU is hospitable to people by welcoming them in to a space of friendship and conversation.

In the UU tradition, we believe in ongoing revelation. Everything that is knowable about the world, about the human being, about the truth, about the Spirit, about ourselves, about one another, is out there, still to be found out, still to be revealed. We believe that there is tremendous wisdom and beauty in the scriptures of the great religions of the world, but we believe the truth is still coming in, that it can evolve, that the story of each of our lives and the story of our lives together are as sacred as the story of the people of Israel or India. So the story of your life, the story of our lives together, is sacred scripture.

Dr. Thandeka, who teaches theology and culture at a UU seminary in Chicago called Meadville Lombard, says that it is in small groups that we practice the central ritual of our faith, the sacred act of being in right relationship with one another. She says that the power of people coming together to share their stories, to talk about ideas, to accomplish a service for others, that power is the central authority of our faith. I think that power is the water we use to quench our thirsty lives, and to quench the thirst in one another for being heard and known. In doing that, we help to put the world back together.


 

Podcasts of this and other sermons are also available for free on iTunes. You can find them here.

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Mystery, Spookiness, Magic and Wonder

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
October 27, 2013

The Sources don’t really mention spookiness or magic, but we’ll talk about it in a way that’s appropriate for all ages in an inter-generational service about mystery.


 

Sermon

Mystery, Spookiness, Magic and Wonder

This is the time of the year when the nights are growing longer and the days are growing shorter. Most people are a little scared of the dark. You can’t see where you’re going as well. You can’t see what’s around you. When I was a little kid, I was pretty sure there was a bad guy living in my closet. My mother would push all the clothes aside, and say, “See, there’s no one there.” That just made me think he was really good at hiding. Many people think there is a monster under the bed, and they don’t want their feet or hands hanging over the edge. I wasn’t really scared of anything under my bed, but I was scared of spiders. My mother would tell me they were more scared of me, because I could squish them, but that didn’t help me, for some reason. This is the time of the year when the darkness grows, so it’s a natural time to talk about fear.

Everybody is scared sometimes. We have different ways of trying to deal with our fear. Some people try to be really good, following all the rules perfectly so nothing bad ever happens to them. That doesn’t always work, though. Some people try to make themselves scary so no one will mess with them at all. Let’s see a scary face. Good ones! Halloween is an ancient holy day where people act out their fears and their bravery.

We dress in scary ways, or we dress in powerful costumes like fairies or superheroes. These costumes make us feel like we might have the powers of the people whose outfits we wear.

The ancient people did not know what happened to people when we die. We don’t know either. What we do know is that all bodies are part of the earth. We are made out of the same materials as stars, earth, and sea water. Our dogs, cats, chickens, ferrets and birds are also part of the earth. So we know that we’ll become part of everything again, and that we’ll feed the grass, which feeds the cattle, which feed the people. We’ll feed the plants, which feed the people. So we become part of life again. Some religions teach that we are reborn again and again, and that we live many lives. Becoming part of the circle of life by going back to the earth? That’s one sure way to be reborn. That is what this chant is about.

Chant

Hoof and horn, hoof and horn
All that died shall be reborn
Corn and grain, corn and grain
All that falls shall rise again

Isis – Astarte – Diana – Hecate – Demeter – Kali – Inanna

The people in parts of Africa say there are different stages of being dead: one, when you stop breathing and another when people don’t remember you any more or tell stories about you.

As long as we remember people, they are part of us.

We are the old people
We are the new people
We are the same people
deeper than before

Chant

Earth my body,
water my blood
air my breath
and fire my spirit

In living we die – in dying we live. The fruit is first seed, yet seed comes from the fruit. In the mystery of life and death and rebirth.


 

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Walking between the raindrops

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
October 20, 2013

It’s the final installment of our series on the Buddhist Eightfold Path. “Right Concentration,” or meditation, is the practice recommended by the Buddhist teachers, and recently by the medical community. What is involved in it?


 

I began this series on the Buddhist eightfold path last year, and in the first sermon I asked how many of you remember the old Hollywood Buddhist movie that came out fourteen years ago called “The Matrix.” In it our hero woke up to the knowledge that his life was an illusion, that he had literally been sleeping through his life entertained with phantoms of a dream of work and relationships, none of which were real. He joined the community of other people who were awake to the true nature of reality, who were living in real time.

The first part of the Buddhist eightfold path to the end of suffering speaks to this dynamic of “waking up” to the true nature of reality. You are called to understand that life is not as it should be, that everyone is suffering because they are (quite rightly) chasing happiness, but chasing it by grabbing at shiny wisps of illusion: the right job, the right look, the right car, the right clothes, the correct cultural experiences, the right education. In order to prepare one’s life for happiness one must understand the way things work. Grasping at things that pass away is the path to misery. Understanding that, one trains oneself to live in the world with grace and compassion. Speaking in wholesome ways, acting ethically, making ones living in a helpful way, holding one’s heart open to the suffering and the joy of others.

Our hero in the movie, though, trained his mind to be so stable, so powerful, so concentrated that he could, in the midst of a gun battle, see where each bullet was and move to avoid it. Even bullets, moving as fast as they do, were no match for his extreme present-mindedness that parsed each second into enough discreet sections that he had plenty of room to move within them.

That is what we’re talking about today. Present-mindedness. You will be able to leave here today and walk between raindrops. Well, maybe after a few years of training. The eighth element of the path to the end of suffering is the most technical of all, so we are going to have a couple of experiences that will show us what my words can’t. Here at the beginning, lets breathe together for ten breaths. Try just to count breaths. If you have thoughts, just notice … “hm, thoughts … ” and gently bring your attention back to your breath. Start counting again if you lose track. Don’t worry about doing this correctly.

TEN BREATHS

Did your mind wander while we were breathing together? Most people’s do. Buddhist teachers call that “Monkey mind.” They describe our thoughts as a jungle full of monkeys chattering and swinging from tree to tree. Another teacher says, no, they are a jungle full of drunken monkeys, chattering and swinging from tree to tree. Some people like the quiet of just breathing and other people dislike it so much they get mad. “What are we doing this for?” is a common question. Some people want rapture, and they get it, but the teacher will say “just keep breathing and meditating and the rapture will fall away and you’ll get equanimity, which is better.” Some want visions. One student is said to have called his teacher over during a meditation session, very excited, and told him “Teacher! I saw the Buddha all shining and golden and he smiled at me.” The teacher nodded, and said “just keep breathing and he will go away.” What is the goal of learning to concentrate one’s mind? To be calm, compassionate and deeply happy. To be psychologically sturdy, less easily thrown by a crash in one’s bank account, a bad diagnosis, trouble in the family. To be able to have a good emotional cushion so you’re not scraping on raw nerves, to be able to feel your mind warm, loose and relaxed instead of stuffed, pushed, overwhelmed and snappish.

These are not all of the benefits, though, as studies at MIT , Harvard and Yale discovered in the nineties. The “gray matter” in one’s brain actually thickens in those who meditate regularly, especially in older people. That’s the gray matter that thins as one ages. It thickens again if you meditate. Slow wave sleep patterns improve. The immune system works better, creating more of the the things that fight disease in those who meditate regularly. Skin conditions clear up better. Every disease process that is exacerbated by stress may benefit from mindfulness meditation, vhich lowers stress. The actual practice of meditation has these effects, while subjects who just sat and thought about whatever they wanted did not exhibit the changes. What is this concentration, this training, this mindfulness meditation? How do you do it?

You begin by sitting still and breathing. Counting your breaths, the way you were just now invited to do. As you count, just go to ten and start over again, as those numbers might be easiest to keep track of. The goal, the experiment, is to see if you can occupy your mind with counting your breaths. Your awareness is of sensations in your body: hunger, discomfort, thirst, restlessness, your awareness is of sounds in the room and outside, and you acknowledge that awareness and then gently invite your attention back to your breaths. Your thoughts may start careening around making lists of things to get at the store, conversations you would like to have with your spouse or partner, things your children said, something you feel guilty about or resentful over. Acknowledge the thoughts and gently bring your attention back to your breath.

It is like exercise, hard at first, then easier. Harder on some days than on others. Some people like to say a word while they meditate, and you can say any word that makes you feel peaceful. Shalom, Buddha, peace, love, Om, Shanti, which is Sanskrit for “peace.” There are traditions of meditation in every faith. Mostly they fall into the “full mind” or “empty mind” techniques. Full mind asks you to chant, or pray the same prayer over and over, which occupies the mind. Counting breaths is meant to occupy the mind. If you are doing a walking meditation, then your mind is occupied with feeling the ground against your foot, first heel, then arch, then toes. Repeat. Empty mind meditation asks you to picture something empty and calm: a valley full of snow, a glassy lake, an ice rink, an empty riding ring. When you have thoughts, you gently sweep them away, inviting yourself back to the calm surface of the lake, or the snow. It’s not hard to do, except that it’s really hard to do. When I do it, I benefit. I’m always about to get back to doing it. It’s only been about ten years. Anytime now, I’ll start again.

This path is part of our Unitarian heritage, as Emerson and Thoreau both were reading the Hindu and Buddhist scriptures, which shaped the Transcendentalist movement, lending them the notions of the Oneness of all things, the over-arching one mind permeating the universe, and the idea of living correctly in a way that is not connected to a Divine being watching you, being pleased or disappointed.

I will not say that, if you get good at this, you will be able to dodge bullets. You may, however, be able to be in the present moment more, the moment in between the bullets of what might happen, who you used to be, what they did to you, what you did to them, how you might end up, everything that could go wrong, what you hope will go right. This practice is not new, it is ancient. You do not have to accept it on faith. The teachers say just to try it and see what happens.


 

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I’m a believer

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
October 13, 2013

It’s Celebration Sunday! We are invited to bring our new pledges, or the affirmation of our 1-2-3 year pledges to the front of the sanctuary in celebration of our participation in this community, its mission and its ministries.


 

Sermon

One of the passages in the Hebrew scriptures that inspires my ministry here is this part of Isaiah 61

The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me,
Because the LORD has anointed me
To bring good news to the afflicted;
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to captives,
And freedom to prisoners;

I’m a believer in being part of a congregation of people who are trying to do these things. It seems also to be a perfect description of what we are here for as a church. One of the things we do is to help people find their freedom. One of the things we don’t free ourselves to do sometimes, is to believe. We are skeptics, it is not hard to get many UUs to say what they don’t believe. It is good for us to figure out what we do believe. Several weeks ago we put up photographs of First UU people with captions of what they said they believed in.

“I’m a believer in … reason and observation,”
“I’m a believer in … the community,”
“I’m a believer in … the good in everyone,”

Go around at coffee hour and take a look. At the kick-off for the canvass we had chocolate cake and wrote on pieces of paper where we finished the sentence “I’m a believer in … ” Those are up here in the glass bowls, and they will feature in our celebration after the sermon.

Here at First UU in Austin, one of the things church frees us to do is think about and declare what we do believe in.

One of the things we are not free around is money. We worry about not having any. There is shame around being in debt, around not being able to pay bills. There is fear about what the future will hold, whether we will be thought well of or scorned. One of my friends has a recurring nightmare where he is hearing people at his own funeral say to one another ‘Well, he never did amount to much.” There is even shame around having enough money. How do you provide well for your children without ruining them? How much is too much to leave them? You want them to have enough, to have a stake with which to start life, but you don’t want the amount to be disincentivizing. My spell check doesn’t recognize that as a word, but I heard it on the news this week.

Money is fascinating, and hard to talk about. This is the time of year when we talk about it with one another, when we ask for feedback about how you think the church is going, and where we talk about what the church means to us, and where we invite one another to claim a place in the community, a respectable place, by pledging generously within your means. The amount doesn’t matter – the generosity does. Some of you would be hard pressed to give a dollar a week, and yet I’m going to press you to do that. There is no shame in that, as long as it is generous within your means. Some of you give six thousand a year, and it’s easy for you to do that. I’m going to ask you to give until it feels significant. If this community is significant in your life.

I haven’t been giving enough, so I’m going to raise my pledge by 20% this year, and each year after that until it feels good. I want you all to consider that as well. Let me tell you a few numbers, which will make you glaze over. It costs the church about 1500 dollars per member to keep running. Not per family. The number comes from taking the yearly budget and dividing it by the number of members. I hesitate to tell you that number because it may not represent a number that will be significant giving for you. So now forget you heard that. I worry about people kind of quickly figuring: okay, I’ll just pledge that and cover myself, so it’s all okay. Well, that may be your significant amount, or it may be like the teenager who, when asked to cut the grass in the backyard, said “Why? I never go out there.”

Our aspiration is that we would all be giving about 5% of our income each year, or 2% of our net worth. That may seem impossible right now. That’s okay. First UU doesn’t want to run on resentful money, or forced money. This church wants hopeful money, aspirational money, invested spirit money, full hearted money, excitement money, belief money. Belief in our mission, in where we’re going, in what’s happening here.

Where are we now? Where are we going? We have added a hundred new members in the past two years. We are bursting at the seams, when it’s not canvass Sunday. The Fred dinner attracts between 20-30 people every Wednesday night for movies and classes. We are staffed properly for growth. Let me tell you what this church looks like to me. You all have helped start two other UU congregations. You have kept this church going for nearly sixty years, (it will be 60 years next year, so we need to start planning an anniversary party) You have been teaching children for sixty years, having meaningful conversations for sixty years, listening to great music for sixty years, making brave decisions, prudent decisions for sixty years, creating a theater company within the congregation, an art gallery with changing monthly exhibits. You have been through good times and hard times. You know what? This is a good time, and I believe in you.


 

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Join what move?

Marisol Caballero
October 6, 2013

The Unitarian Universalist Association has sold their historic Boston headquarters at 25 Beacon St. and has opted to move to the more modern, practical, and spacious digs of 24 Farnsworth. This decision to move has sparked little ambivalence, as UUs across the country either love the idea, believing that we are now able to truly walk our talk, denominationally; or are convinced that nothing must be sacred anymore, that the UUA Board of Trustees has sold us out. What does this move truly mean for us, here at First UU Church of Austin, and what does it mean for UUs everywhere?


 

Welcome words

By David C. Pohl

We come to this time and this place: To rediscover the wondrous gift of free religious community; To renew our faith in the Holiness, goodness, and beauty of life;

To reaffirm the way of the open mind and full heart; To rekindle the flame of memory and hope;

And to reclaim the vision of an earth made fair, with all her people one.


 

Story for all ages:

“The Farmer’s Legacy”

Once there was a farmer. He was very old and ill and knew he would soon die.

He had lived a good life and his only regret was that his three children fought all the time. None of them seemed interested in taking care of the large farm the old man had established. They were rather lazy. The farm was big enough for several farmhouses and produced enough food to easily provide for any families his children might someday start. The only reason the old farmer had worked so hard his entire life was to leave a legacy to his children so their life would be easier. Now that his life was near its end, he wanted to find some way to help them see what a precious thing it is to be able to work your own land and provide for your family. So he did.

One winter day, the old farmer called his children to his sick bed. “My children, I have accumulated great wealth.”

“Where is this great wealth?”, they asked.

“You have never seen it. It exists out, deep in the fields. That is where you will find your legacy.” A short time later, the farmer died.

His children grieved, because they loved their father. Their sadness brought them together and they stopped fighting. One day, they decided to go looking for their legacy.

“He said it is deep in the fields. It must be buried.”

So they dug and dug for days. They dug until they had dug up almost all the farmland, but they found nothing. One sibling said, “We have dug up all this land, but we haven’t found our legacy. We must have missed it and I am too tired to keep digging. Still, it is spring and time to plant crops. Since we have already dug up the earth, we might as well plant this field.” So they did.

Fall came and after harvesting their crops, they set to digging again, looking for their legacy. They dug and dug for days. They dug until, once again, they had dug up almost all the farmland, butthey found nothing. One sibling said, “We have dug up all this land, but we haven’t found our legacy. We must have missed it and I am too tired to keep digging. Still, it is spring and time to plant crops. Since we have already dug up the earth, we might as well plant as we did last year.” So they did.

Yet again, fall came and they harvested their crops. This year’s harvest was even bigger than the year’s before. After the harvest, they dug for their legacy and, not finding it again, decided to plant their crops. This continued for a few years. During that time, they got married and started families and they lived comfortable lives off the money from selling their crops. They grew strong from working in the fields and no longer were lazy. They were healthy and happy.

One spring/they all three realized that the rich land ofthe farm and being able to provide for themselves and their families was the true legacy their father left them.

They stopped digging for treasure and started working the farm, happy that their father had been wise enough to leave them this great gift. They decided that they would all share the land and take good care of it, so they could leave it to their children someday.

And so they did.


 

Reading

“Coming Home”
by Mary Oliver

When we’re driving, in the dark,
on the long road
to Provincetown, which lies empty
for miles, when we’re weary,
when the buildings
and the scrub pines lose
their familiar look,
I imagine us rising
from the speeding car,
I imagine us seeing
everything from another place – the top
of one of the pale dunes
or the deep and nameless
fields of the sea-
and what we see is the world
that cannot cherish us
but which we cherish,
and what we see is our life moving like that,
along the dark edges
of everything – the headlights
like lanterns
sweeping the blackness –
believing in a thousand
fragile and unprovable things,
looking out for sorrow,
slowing down for happiness,
making all the right turns
right down to the thumping
barriers to the sea,
the swirling waves,
the narrow streets, the houses,
the past, the future,
the doorway that belongs
to you and me.


 

Prayer/Meditation

By Amanda Poppei

This is the home that love made.
It is full of the love that the founders felt, when they planned out these walls and raised these beams above us.

This is the home that love made.
It is full of the love of all who have worshipped here; those who have celebrated and grieved here; the babies dedicated, couples married, and family members mourned here.

This is the home that love made.
It is full of the love of our children, as they learn and laugh together, and our youth, as they grow into their own sense of purpose and meaning.

This is the home that love made.
It is full ofthe love ofthe staff who have served it, full oftheir hopes for this congregation, their hard work and their acts of dedication.

This is the home that love made.
It is full of the love of the choir, the love made so clear in the voices Sunday morning.

This is the home that love made.
It is full of our love, the love of this community, despite our disagreements, the love that holds us together as a This is the home that love made. Can you feel May the love be with us always.

Amen.


 

Sermon

“Join What Move?”

So, I’ve just flown in from three weeks in Africa. I’ll spare you the jokes about my arms being tired, because in truth, jetlag seems to be serious business. All of me is tired. If I begin to speak gibberish, I’m counting on you all to remain calm and find me a pillow and a soft place to fall. Despite my fatigue, I can’t recall ever being happier to see all of your faces! Here’s what it took to get home from the tiny, rural Zambian village my Erin and I stayed in, visiting friends, for the last week on the Mother Continent:

Our hosts escorted us on a ten-minute hike to the roadside, where we attempted, for one hour, to flag down a ride. Yes, that’s right, we hitchhiked, which in Zambia, is also understood as hailing a cab because, if you drive a car, you make money on the side by giving people rides. After stiff negotiations, Erin and I scored a ride in the seatless back of a newspaper delivery van for ten-hour drive into the capital city for the night. The next morning, we headed to the airport in a more official version of a taxi and boarded a several-hour flight to Johannesburg, where we caught a ten-point-something-hour flight to Istanbul, and another ten-hour flight to John F. Kennedy airport in New York City. At JFK, we were so ecstatic to have reached the US after so much travel, that we gorged ourselves on familiar foods, found our gate, and more exhausted than ever before, fell asleep without realizing it and woke up 20 minutes after the plane departed. What later became known as “THE most expensive nap EVER,” led to our returning to Austin at midnight on the third day of near-continuous travel.

Turning the key in our front door was miraculous. This was my first trip outside the US, and no one had warned me that the quality of reading materials or the size of the movie selection on the plane matters not in such circumstances. The endless hours, lack of movement, and Turkish flight attendants who will appear out of nowhere to tell you to close the window shade if you so much as peak at sunshine from the darkness of the cabin all provoke a type of desperation in which dreams of growing closer and closer to a final destination called, “Home” are all that keep you from pulling out fists full of hair, your own or anyone else’s.

“Home” became this mythical place of safe familiarity, like the thought of returning to the womb. I closed my eyes, trying to block our yet another romantic comedy and a swift kick to the back of my chair, while picturing hugging my pets again, and simple pleasures, like cold, filtered water from the fridge and the vanilla and honey scented hand soap I have in our bathroom. I imagined habitual moments, like doing dishes and driving the car, as if they were events for which I had bought tickets for months ahead of time, and was eagerly awaiting. The thought of “Home” was the golden calf upon which this new faith was being built. It was the ideal upon which I was clinging to, its history and distant memory the only thing keeping me sane as I faced each dragging future hour.

The trip to Africa, itself, was the experience of my life, from which I can bet you’ll hear stories for many years, but what is relevant today, is the idea of wanting to preserve a memory of “Home” that can be returned to.

It isn’t long after becoming a Unitarian Universalist or growing up as a Unitarian Universalist, that someone learns that the headquarters of our Association of congregations, as well as a great deal of our denominational history, is in Boston, Massachusetts. And, typically, alongside that bit of understanding, comes the knowledge of the famous address: 25 Beacon Street. The first time I visited Boston and 25 Beacon St at age twenty-three, I felt as if I had arrived at the Motherland. The two old buildings, sitting right next to the Massachusetts State House, gave me goose bumps, as I thought about all of those who had passed through their doors and all that had happened within those walls that had helped to form this free faith that I love so much.

John Marsh characterized 25 Beacon St. as, “More than an office building, it has been our axis mundi, the imaginary center of our world, the portal between every day and mystical, the destination of religious pilgrimages and the repository for holy relics: including the writing desk of Thomas Starr King and a lock of hair of William Ellery Channing’s … there was another 25 Beacon Street before this one. When the American Unitarian Association moved into the first 25 Beacon Street headquarters in 1886 it was on the other side ofthe State House. When they moved the headquarters in 1927 they had enough pull with the Massachusetts legislature that a bill was passed to allow them to take their address with them: confusing people looking for nearby buildings for generations to follow. Its being out of normal numerical sequence adding to its allure as a portal into the extraordinary, like Platform 9 and 3/4 in Harry Potter’s Wizarding World.” We love our family home.

But today, October 6th, is what is to be known as, “Join the Move Sunday,” in which all UU congregations have been encouraged to talk about, garner support for, or at least rally together in coming to terms with, the upcoming move away from and selling of our denominational headquarters at 25 Beacon St. The reasons for this move are practical and sound and quite visionary, but human emotions are not always so tidy, and many UU’s, including myself, are experiencing pangs of sadness at the selling of our “family home.”

Anyone vaguely familiar with New England real estate is aware that the UUA has been sitting on a property goldmine in 25 Beacon for some time. Our denomination and many of its programs took a major hit during the recession and so, it’s no secret that the denomination could use the financial security that selling this historic property will bring. But, above the lure of cashing in on this investment we, as a denomination are faced with the wonderful dilemma that we are quickly outgrowing our current digs! A year ago, USA Today reported that UUism is growing quickly, especially in the South, while most other faith traditions have declining membership.We are experiencing the same problem here at First UU Church of Austin, where we’ve had well over 100 new members join in the past year and have dropped our attrition rate by 50% in the past two years! We, too, have struggled recently to find room on our campus to house the staff and programs required to sustain a dynamic community this size. In an effort to better serve the needs of current UU congregations as well as to better embody our principles as a liberal religious movement, the decision was made, by our UUA president and Board of Trustees, to purchase three floors of a large brick warehouse building at 24 Farnsworth St., located 1 mile away from Beacon Hill, but a world away from that neighborhood’s “old money” character.

Also, the new building will offer opportunities to become more welcoming, as the space will be more accommodating to groups of visitors and will finally allow our headquarters to become accessible to people of all physical abilities. The new space’s open floor plan will allow for greater collaboration between staff departments and the building’s structure will reduce the headquarters’ carbon footprint by as much as possible, by employing sustainable building practices.

Rob Malia, Director of Human Resources for the UUA and New Headquarters Design Team Lead promises that, “The new headquarters will honor our past while looking to the future, ensuring that we have the best tools and most collaborative space possible to serve you and your congregations.” As planned, the museum-quality, interactive, “Heritage and Vision Center” at 24 Farnsworth St., will help the visitor to:

  • Root [them]selves in a rich history while looking forward to the future;
  • Have a presence and a reach that is local, regional, national, and global; Deepen the dynamic relationship among the headquarters, congregations, and partner organizations; and
  •  Share our story in the larger context of cultural movements.

Listening to this here in Texas, many of us may wonder what all the hoopla is about and why we should care. As a member congregation of this association, the headquarters are our headquarters as much as anyone else’s and what happens in Boston is our business, too. The historic, beloved sites are our roots and a part of our story as much as anyone else’s. Also, as I mentioned before, it is no secret that we find ourselves facing a similar situation. Our ultimate decision to stay and build or to sell and move mayor may not mirror the one that our movement’s headquarters has made. Let’s pay attention.

UUA Executive Vice President Kathleen Montgomery recently reflected: “I dearly love 25 Beacon Street and rarely come into the building (as I have almost every day for thirty years) without reveling in the memories it contains and its stately elegance. Almost every room in it is embedded with stories that remind me of the people who have been in them, ones I know and care about and others who were gone long before my time. Lots of laughter, some tears, marriages in the chapel, endless meetings, important decisions, scheming and planning and watching change happen, watching the Association grow, build on the past, and become more clear about its mission.

Best memory: the era when the Massachusetts State House struggled with the issue of marriage equality and we hung huge signs facing the State House that said things like, “Civil Marriage is a Civil Right.” The demonstrators and the politicians couldn’t miss them.

I love all the memories and get sentimental thinking about them (well, okay, I get sentimental pretty easily). But you know what? It’s time to move on. That belief didn’t come easily or quickly to me but I grew into it with certainty.

We need a different kind of space that fits the time we find ourselves in. We need to unburden ourselves of buildings that are about the past and not about the present and the future. We need to acknowledge that bearing the enormous cost of bringing Beacon Hill buildings into the 20th century, forget the 21 st, would be foolish.

So we’ll take our memories with us as we move on-no one and no building can take them away. They’re ours. They’ll always be ours. Now it’s time to move to a new, fresh, innovative space and create new memories.”

Ultimately, this is the difficult decision that our elected President and Board of Trustees made on our behalf in order to better live into our shared Principles and Purposes. It was decided that the future of Unitarian Universalism should be more concerned with future development than enshrining the heroes and accomplishments of our past. I encourage you to consider searching, “Join the Move” online, learning more about, and donating to the efforts.

As this Movement and this congregation, in particular, continues to grow in the fertile ground of Austin, Texas, we will, no doubt look to this move with a curious mind, asking the questions, “What is the essence of this church community?,” “What will it mean for us to live more fully into our church’s mission?,” “Where might our children find evidence of our legacy, and how might they go about continuing its work?,” and, “How does our location and building reflect all of this?” Though these questions involve change, no matter how they are answered, and change is rough, I am excited to be a part of this community at such a time! For, as Rev. Lewis B. Fisher once said a century ago, “Universalists are often asked to tell where they stand. The only true answer … is that we do not stand at all, we move.”


 

Benediction

Be ours a religion which, like sunshine, goes everywhere; its temple, all space; its shrine, the good heart; its creed, all truth; its ritual, works of love; its profession of faith, divine living.

– Theodore Parker


 

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Bedrock values at the heart of humanism

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
September 29, 2013

One of the sources from which Unitarian Universalism draws are “Humanist teachings that counsel us to heed the guidance of reason and the results of science, and warn us against idolatries of the mind and spirit.” We are believers in clarity of mind without making our reason into something we worship.


 

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Not so good at Mindfulness

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
September 22, 2013

The sixth element of the Buddhist eight-fold path is “right mindfulness.” Do you have to give up multitasking? Do you have to do the dishes meditatively?


 

This is a sermon about knowing what you are doing. It’s a spiritual path I call “Present-Mindedness.” Its rules are simple: Show up. Pay Attention. Breathe. The seventh element in the eight-fold path of Buddhism is “Right Mindfulness”

I have spent a long time fighting mindfulness because I read that we fight mindfulness with eating, drinking, sex, activity and company. You have just named quite a few of the main blessings of life. Reading that, filtering it through my puritan nature or my natural either/or thinking leads me to decide — “yikes, I have to either give those things up or give up on being mindful.” Not true. I also have resisted mindfulness because it sounds too hard, just doing one thing at a time. I fear that I would never get anything written if I didn’t think and write in my head while I did other things.

I read about mindfulness, and some of it sounds like this:

“Usually, the cognitive process begins with an impression induced by perception, or by a thought, but then it does not stay with the mere impression. Instead, we almost always conceptualize sense impressions and thoughts immediately. We interpret them and set them in relation to other thoughts and experiences, which naturally go beyond the facticity of the original impression. The mind then posits concepts, joins concepts into constructs, and weaves those constructs into complex interpretative schemes. All this happens only half consciously, and as a result we often see things obscured. Right mindfulness is anchored in clear perception and it penetrates impressions without getting carried away.”

I have had some time to unpack this, which is one of the things you pay me for, so let me do that. All they are saying is that things happen to us. Then we have thoughts about the things that happen, which mayor may not be accurate. Those thoughts give us feelings. Those feelings can hurt us or others, and they may have very little to do with what happened. Try to just be aware of what happens. Then watch the thoughts you have about what happens.

A simple example might be that, as you are leaving church today, you wave to someone in the parking lot. They turn their back and do not return your wave. That’s the thing that happened. You begin to have thoughts about the thing that happened. “They don’t like me. ” “I offended them somehow.” “I hurt their feelings.” Those thoughts lead to feelings. Shame, anger, hurt. They don’t like me because …. Then you list the things about you people have not liked in the past, or things you don’t like about yourself. You are your own worst critic, if you are like most of us. Then you start having a conversation in your head with them. “1 can’t believe you were offended by that. Grow up! You are just too sensitive for this world. On second thought, you’re probably right, I’m a loser. I open my mouth and who knows what will come out? I should just keep quiet.” You can scald yourself inside with those conversations. When you see that person again, you have feelings about them that they don’t know about. You feel defensive, angry, and distant. You have decided you two have a personality conflict.

Here is what really happened. You waved at them, and they had the thought that you were probably waving at someone behind them, and they didn’t want to look like a fool waving back at you when you were not even waving at them. How stupid would THAT feel? So they just turned and avoided looking like a geek.

One of my teachers, Byron Katie, tells this somewhat earthy story:

“Once, as I walked into the ladies room at a restaurant near my home, a woman came out of the single stall. We smiled at each other, and, as I closed the door, she began to sing and wash her hands. What a lovely voice!” I thought. Then, as I heard her leave, I noticed that the toilet seat was dripping wet. ‘How could anyone be so rude?’ I thought. ‘And how did she manage to pee all over the seat? Was she standing on it?’ Then it came to me that she was a man – a transvestite, singing falsetto in the women’s restroom. It crossed my mind to go after her (him) and let him know what a mess he’d made. As I cleaned the toilet seat, I thought about everything I’d say to him. Then I flushed the toilet. The water shot up out of the bowl and flooded the seat.”

What this spiritual practice of present-mindedness asks us to try is to be aware of when we are having feelings about our thoughts about things– not to stop doing it, not to control our thoughts, but to be aware of what we are doing. Katie’s teaching invites you to ask yourself: “is it true, that that person who didn’t wave to me has been offended? Do I know for sure that it’s true?” The next question is “Can you think of one healthy, sane reason to hang onto that thought?”

Once I was misquoted in the paper. My first thought is “Oh goodness, I sound like an idiot.” It was a story about the billboards about a “ministry” that claimed to be able to take people who are gay and change them into heterosexuals. They said I said the billboards were deceitful and wicked. Which I did. Then they said I said something like “There are some hints that homosexual lifestyle would have been frowned upon by the people 2,000 years ago, but we wink at everything else they thought was wrong.” Which I did not. Only and idiot would say that. So for a while that afternoon, after I read that, I had the thought. “Everyone in town is going to think I’m cavalier about morality. They are going to think Unitarian Universalists have no sense of right and wrong.” Then I got a grip. Only the people who read that article will wonder if I’m an idiot, and the ones who know me will know I’m not.” While I was having the thought that everyone thought I was an amoral nincompoop, I shouted at the dog. Then I thought. “OH, this is my chance to practice. Breathe. I’m having thoughts, then feelings about those thoughts, and they are making me suffer, and I don’t know for sure that my thoughts are true. I will take what action I can, make a plan for the future, and let the rest go.” I wrote a letter to the editor and planned not to talk to that reporter again.

Show up Pay attention. Breathe. Present-mindedness. This simple practice can have big consequences. The University of Massachusetts gives mindfulness training as part of its Stress Reduction Program. The literature for the program says mindfulness practice can help you move toward greater balance, control and participation in your life. They list these benefits:

  • Lasting decreases in physical and psychological symptoms
  • An increased ability to relax
  • Reductions in pain levels and an enhanced ability to cope with pain that may not go away
  • Greater energy and enthusiasm for life
  • Improved self-esteem
  • An ability to cope more effectively with both short and long-term stressful situations.

They describe the opposite of mindfulness: “a loss of awareness resulting in forgetfulness, separation from self, and a sense of living mechanically. “

I like how they say it’s not something you have to learn from scratch. Everyone has had experiences of being 100% there with the experience you are having, without interpreting or layering it with your own accretions. I watched a documentary last week about people who put on flying suits and jump off of mountains. They say they do it because it really puts you in the present moment.

They say: “Fortunately, mindfulness is not something that you have to “get” or acquire. It is already within you – a deep internal resource available and patiently waiting to be released and used in the service of learning, growing, and healing.”

“Already within you” sounds like the way Rabbi Jesus described the Kingdom of God. It’s within you, he said, the size of a mustard seed, the smallest of all seeds, yet it grows into a large bush that can shelter birds in its shade. A tiny practice of showing up, paying attention, and breathing, can have far-reaching effects.

So I sit with the feeling that the whole town thinks I’m an amoral nincompoop. I notice the pain of it. I ask myself if it’s true. I accept this bad feeling. It’s here. I may as well. It will eventually go away.

Mindfulness teacher Jon Kabot Zinn says “Acceptance offers a way to navigate life’s ups and downs – what Zorba the Greek called “the full catastrophe” – with grace, a sense of humor, and perhaps some understanding of the big picture, what I like to think of as wisdom”

Try this for yourself. This is also the great assertion of the Buddha: “don’t put anyone else’s head on top of your own.” Test, test, and know for yourself. Only embrace that which you know, from the depths of blood and marrow, to be true.


 

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What if you can’t keep your promise?

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
September 15, 2013

Yom Kippur is the final day of the Jewish High Holy Days, which are about repentance, forgiveness and reconciliation. It is also a day when you may work to be released from a vow you cannot keep. Let’s talk about forgiving others, and forgiving ourselves too.


 

Yom Kippur is the final day of the Days of Awe, celebrated at this time of year by our sisters and brothers in the Jewish Community. We in UUism are free to dance with many different religious groups, so we are exploring what gifts and insights Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur have for us. These High Holy Days are about atonement, forgiveness and reconciliation. Let be talk about atonement first. To do that, I have to talk about sin.

It is difficult for us UU’s to talk about “sin.” One UU web page on the net says that you can attend a UU church for years without hearing the word “sin.” Our denomination began several hundred years ago in reaction to the Calvinist concepts of Original Sin. Jonathan Edwards, a Princeton-educated New Englander, put forth the Calvinist view in his sermon: “sinners in the hands of an angry God.” He described God as holding us as someone would hold a spider over the fire, completely justified in dropping it into the flames, yet in his mercy, moment by moment, keeping it alive.

Present-day Christians don’t usually paint that gruesome a picture, seeing the belief in a loving God a s primary, but they still have to deal with the theology of Original Sin. Calvinist Christianity, building on the work of the early North African church father Augustine, teaches that humans are born in sin. We are all broken in our essence, and this brokenness is passed down from generation to generation, making it difficult if not impossible for us to choose to do the right thing. We are bent towards sin, predisposed to run from God.

Unitarians and Universalists, in the early centuries, taught that it is ridiculous that God would have created us to be sinful and then punished us for it. It goes against our best reason to think that God set things up for us to fall and then sends us to hell for falling. Most UU’s feel that humans are born good, but because of influences in our culture or lack of education, opportunity, racism, sexism, or bad examples, we do bad things. UU minister Forrester Church says in the “Nature VS Nurture argument, it’s as if the Calvinists come down on the genetics side of the argument and the UUs come down on the environment side. They say sin is nature. We say it is nurture. There are pluses and minuses to both ways of seeing the world.

Forrester Church says he believes strongly in both He says: “Subscribing to the genetic argument, I believe that we are born sinners; and, equally convinced by the environmental argument, I also believe that over time and through experience, sweet and bitter, we acquire an aptitude for sin.”

Here is what I believe, and I find this to make the most sense and provide the most cheerful out look on life, which is important to me. I don’t think sin is either nature or nurture. I don’t believe in Original sin, and I don’t believe we are born good. I believe we are born some good and some bad, in other words, born human. We keep acting out our some good, some bad nature our whole life long. Some people say “How could you think a baby was born in sin?! They’re so cute and wonderful!” As a mother, I see the romanticizing of babies as sweet and innocent is laughable. They may be innocent, whatever that means, but they are self centered creatures who are beautiful and compelling enough usually to keep you from pitching them out the window the fourteenth night in a row they awaken you every two hours to get fed or just because they got the urge to hang out with you for twenty minutes before they doze off again.

That debate aside for now, whether we do wrong things because it is our nature or because it is the result of forces at work upon us from our environment, or whether we are acting out our mixed regular human nature, the fact is that most of us mess up.

So I think of myself as a sinner. If I’m ready for it, if I know it’s going to happen some time, I can be more cheerful about it. Yep. I messed up again. I’ll do that. I try not to, but it happens. Yep, my partner messed up, or my child, or the person at work, or the treasurer of the church next door. It helps me not be surprised and disappointed by human behavior.

It also gives me more compassion for myself and for others. We do wrong things. Some of those things are mistakes. The popular piece of information to impart these days is that, in Hebrew, the word for sin means “missing the mark.” We just missed. It makes it sound like bad aim. Some wrong things we do are like that.

But some are things we do while knowing full well that they are wrong and damaging. We in the liberal religious tradition need to have ways of talking about this too.

What is our spiritual practice when we do things that are destructive? What do we do when we break promises?

One important thing to know about Yom Kippur is that Jews don’t believe God is in the business of forgiving you what you have done to others. If you have wronged God, God will forgive. If you have wronged someone else, go ask that person for forgiveness.

In the Jewish tradition, if you break a vow, you have an opportunity, during the Days of Awe, when the Book of Life is left open for a time, to make things right. You can go to three members of your community or one ordained person, and tell them what the vow was, tell them you have not managed to keep the vow, and ask to be released from the vow. We can also try to make amends for the wrongs we have done. We can make an honest effort to go to the person we have betrayed, lied to, or hurt, and we can tell them we are sorry and that we have every intention of not repeating what we did. And we can ask their forgiveness. They may give it or they may not, but at least we have done our part.

The Days of Awe are also about forgiveness and reconciliation. What about people who have wronged us? Carolyn Myss, medical intuitive, says that when you harbor anger at a person, when you hold on to something wrong they have done to you, a portion of your life force is directed to that person to keep up that negative connection with them, to wish them ill, to grind at the desire to have them sweat in front of you, realizing what they have done, and “repenting on bended knee.” Given that the odds of that happening are slim to none, she suggests that in not forgiving someone, your life force is being drained off into a bad investment, and that you let it go. There is so much wisdom in that. Our resentment and hatred do those who wronged us no real harm, while it eats at our guts and makes us sick and weak.

I don’t have a problem with forgiveness, but do I have a problem with just “letting it go.” What if someone has done something truly awful to you? Tortured you, abused you, betrayed you, what if they are a parent and they have molested you? What if they molested your children? Do you just forgive and forget in order to grow spiritually?

I’m with the Israelis on this one. They say “Forgive, but never forget.” In the new Holocaust museum in Washington are the words “Never Again.” You don’t have to forget when you forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to be in relationship with the one who hurt you. It just means that you give them over to karmic justice or Divine justice and quit reciting their wrongs in your mind and heart. Give them their eviction notice in your head. Resign from the job of making them see what they’ve done. If you’re ready. If it feels right to you.

These Holy Days are for us to be reconciled with God and with one another. I have talked about asking forgiveness from God and from one another, but I use the freedom of this pulpit to ask: does God ever do wrong things? Is there some forgiveness called for there? Elie Weisel, in his book Night, and his play “The Trial of God,” has inmates at Auschwitz, in their despair, call God to trial for allowing such evil to exist in the world. At the end, after pronouncing God guilty, the inmates rise and recite the Kaddish, which proclaims God’s sovereignty in the world. For a Jew, it is possible to argue with God, even to accuse God, but not to live without God. Some of us are harboring resentments against God, who somehow did not fulfill our expectations of him. We are angry because she let something awful happen. Maybe during this time we can decide to let go of that draining resentment as well.

These Holy Days are an opportunity, every year, to apologize for wrongs you have done, mistakes you have made to forgive other people, to let go of resentments, and to bring out the vows you have not been able to keep and do the work of being released from them. What I try to give you, each Sunday, is a small excerpt from the “Soul Home Repair Manual,” so we can attend to making the world a better place, starting in our own hearts and our own spirits.


 

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The serious business of play

Rev. Marisol Caballero
September 1, 2013

So often we dismiss saccharine statements made by those who teach children as trite, “I learn just as much from them as they learn from me!” But, there is a sacred science behind it. The insights and discoveries of children and teens lend us a glimpse into ways of engaging with our universe and each other that the average adult brain no longer accesses on our own! Join us in exploring the spiritual practice of learning with, from and teaching children.


 

Call to Worship 
By Carol Meyer

We are people of all ages who enter this space bringing our joys and our concerns.

We come together in hope.

We greet each other warmly with our voices and our smiles.

We come together in peace.

We light the chalice to symbolize our interdependence and our unity.

We come together in harmony.

We share our growth and our aspirations.

We come together in wonder.

We share our losses and our disappointments.

We come together in sorrow.

We share our concern and our compassion.

We come together in love.

We come to this place bringing our doubts and our faith.

We come together as seekers.

We sing and pray and listen. We speak and read and dream. We think and ponder and reflect We cry and laugh and center. We mourn and celebrate and meditate. We strive for justice and for mercy.

We come together in worship.

Reading 
excerpt from “The Courage to Teach” by Parker Palmer

Erik Erikson, reflecting on adult development, says that in midlife, we face a choice between “stagnation” and “generativity.” … On one hand (generativity] suggests creativity, the ongoing possibility that no matter our age, we can help co-create the world. On the other hand, it suggests the endless emergence ofthe generations, with its implied imperative that the elders look back toward the young and help them find a future that the elders will not see. Put these two images together, and generativity becomes “creativity in the service of the young” – in a way in which the elders serve not only the young but also their own well-being.

In the face of apparent judgment of the young, teachers must turn toward students, not away from them, saying, in effect, “There are great gaps between us. But no matter how wide and perilous they may be, I am committed to bridging them- not only because you need me to help you on your way but also because I need your insight and energy to help renew my own life.”

… Good teaching is an act of hospitality toward the young, and hospitality is always an act that benefits the host even more than the guest. The concept of hospitality arose in ancient times when this reciprocity was easier to see: in nomadic cultures, the food and shelter one gave to a stranger yesterday is the food and shelter one hopes to receive from a stranger tomorrow. By offering hospitality, one participates in the endless reweaving of a social fabric on which all can depend- thus the gift of sustenance for the guest becomes a gift of hope for the host. It is that way in teaching as well: the teacher’s hospitality to the student results in a world more hospitable to the teacher.

Prayer/Meditation 
Marta M. Flanagan

God of all generations, in all the power, mystery and design of this world, draw us near, inspire us to see anew the life before us. Make us like the child who sees so clearly and touches so deeply.

From the source of our being, we yearn for new vision, new eyes to see the world, new ears to hear the cries of sorrow and of joy. Uplift us to the glories beheld in ourselves and in those around us. And yes, open our hearts to the pain we guard within ourselves and to the pain known by the hungry in body and in spirit.

In this moment of life, sustain us in the silence of our own thoughts and prayers …

Peace be to this congregation. Amen.

Sermon 
“The Serious Business of Play”
Rev. Marisol Caballero

I always tell people that I have the best gig. I spent so many years working with kids in various settings and, as much as I knew, with my whole heart, that ministry was the vocation to which my soul called me, I knew that, once ordained and gainfully employed, I would surely miss getting to spend time with kids. After all, kids are some ofthe coolest people I know. Annie, one of our resident preschool theologians, is known to ask questions such as, “Why does everyone have a body?” and “Do I have to be a person?” But, in this gig here at First UU, I have been handed a living in which I get the opportunity to do ministry in the traditional sense- to meet interesting people and walk with them a ways through life, to prepare and give sermons from time-to-time, to plan programming, to facilitate adult spiritual learning experiences- and I’m also given the privilege of doing the sort of ministry that I have been spending most of my life engaging in- I am given the opportunity to learn from and with children.

Last spring, I stepped in as lead Sunday school teacher when one of our volunteers couldn’t make it at the last minute. I was working with a group of seven and eight year olds and the lesson was about varying ideas about God. We read a beautifully illustrated storybook that talked about how people view God differently and fmd God in many places. Afterward, we took out some crayons, markers, and blank construction paper. We emphasized how there is no right or wrong way in understanding God and it’s ok if everyone has a different picture or if everyone drew the same thing. The only instruction was to draw God. In the next few minutes, I saw a picture of a big tree, a picture of a forest trail, a big, bright yellow sun, an old man with a beard, a rainbow, and a kitty cat. Without having studied the complexities of quantum physics, these kids had explained it to me with crayons. We are all made up of the same stuff as everything else in the universe. Without spelling it out, they had linked their playful curiosities and uninhibited wonder to our lofty Unitarian Universalist principles. Divinity exists in all.

Still discovering the world around them, everything is still awesome, in the true sense of the word. Does the world become less awesome as we learn about it all, or do we lose sight of our sense of wonder as we age? Is it a bit of both?

Alison Gopnik, a professor of psychology and philosophy at UC Berkeley, says that the brains of babies and young children operate similarly to the “brains of the most brilliant scientists,” the “most powerful learning computers on the planet” by design. She says that instead of looking at babies and children as defective, adults-in-training, we should think of them as at “a different developmental stage of our same species.” That statement is blowing your minds, right? Well, of course, we all know that babies and children are human and that they are not at the same developmental stage as a master carpenter or neurosurgeon, but Gopnik goes on to using the analogy of a caterpillar and butterfly. But, guess who she says is the caterpillar and which is the butterfly? Children, whose evolutionary job is to learn, are flitting all around the garden, exploring and tasting each plant and flying seemingly without purpose, while us adults are more concerned with keeping our heads down and completing the task at hand so that we can eat it and then check that enormous leaf off of our to-do list. Now, on to the next one.

My favorite memory of the past week (which I’m sure will, over time, tum into one of my favorite memories of this past life, if I can take it with me wherever I am bound) was when my lady and I were shopping in HEB and she suddenly started to slyly shove me sideways until I was pinned to the shelves.

I had no explanation for why, aside from the possibility that she’d lost her mind. I struggled & couldn’t get away & so, giggling until I couldn’t breathe and red in the face with embarrassment as passers-by grinned at me in solidarity, she let me go as if nothing had happened. She did this several more times. In-between pinnings, we ran into a member of this church and our downstairs neighbor! Play, the most inexpensive fun there is, deeply connects us to one another.

For those who will better value concepts like “play” if a learned scholar has attached research to it (myself included, if I’m honest), Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play the guy whose initial research with convicted murderers demonstrated that a common theme in their lives had been a sad deficiency in play during childhood. Brown tells us that, “the opposite of play isn’t work, its depression,” that play is not simply rehearsal for adult activity, but has merit for its own sake. It is “its own biological entity.” Play is a huge source of our fulfilling one of our basic spiritual needs- yes, we all have basic spiritual needs, just as we have basic physical ones, such as food, water shelter- play actually strengthens our feelings of connectedness to each other. Brown says that, “the basis of human trust is established through play.” He says that we understand the “play signals” that others give us, verbally and physically” as children and “we begin to lose those signals, culturally and otherwise, as adults and that’s a shame.”

Children learn by “getting into everything,” otherwise known as playing. Gopnik had another great metaphor for the difference in the way that children and adults learn to explain how play is never “just” about having fun for children. I adore this metaphor. She explains how the typical adult brain functions like a spotlight. We pay focus our attention on one thing or task at a time, or try to anyhow, and value the ability to do so. We count ourselves as “on a roll” or “in the zone” and spend hours attempting to meditate on a singular object or thought, or try to clear our minds, completely.

Children’s minds, however, are more like lanterns, as they are not very skilled at focusing on one thing at a time but great at noticing everything around them at once. It isn’t that they are not paying attention to you, it’s that kids are paying attention to you and everything else, as well.

In order to reconnect ours minds once more with the ability to experience awe and wonder, to be open to innovation, creativity, and to allow our imaginations to view concepts in completely new ways, we may engage in playful learning with kids.

We talk about playas ifit’s a waste of time. We say things like, ‘Just having fun,” as if fun can’t be an important soul-nourishing goal on its own, as if enjoying life and taking a few moments to be silly wastes time and prevents us from doing important things- like working and making money, so that we can better enjoy life … We need not have either/or. Work and play are important. And, I am not speaking ofthe way I typically think of “work hard, play hard.” I don’t mean work, work, work, take a vacation to Africa that you’ve been planning and scrimping for over a year. I’m referring to the little silly games we play to make others smile, the digging in the sand simply for the sake of re-exploring how it feels running between fingers, spontaneously chasing your pet until they are sure you’ve lost your mind… I’m advocating for real play!

Lucky for us, we have a growing number of resident experts on the seriously crucial spiritual practice of play right here in this congregation! Most of them are rapidly growing taller than me, right before our eyes! First UU of Austin operates a loving and thriving cooperative Children and Youth Religious Education program, which means that parents of enrolled children are required to give at least eight hours of their time to the program per year. One of the many ways to do this is by interacting (also known as “playing”) with our kids during Sunday School and Youth Group meetings; learning alongside them, through their wisdom and insight and their illuminating lantern-minds, as they encounter fun ways of exploring their world, their thoughts, their relationships, and their understanding of Unitarian Universalism.

This opportunity is not reserved only for parents, and not all parents are the sort that do well in the classroom. If you are interested in engaging in teaching and being taught by our children and teens, in being transformed, in connecting with other members of this fascinating species of ours across the generations, in understanding Unitarian Universalism and science and mysticism and yourself and the ways that all of that is the same thing- in ways that you never imagined, consider becoming a volunteer teacher. It isn’t as scary as it may sound. It isn’t like I’m saying, “consider becoming a yogi or a guru if you’ve never practiced yoga or meditation.” And, not all Sundays with children and teens are magical. Some are tough. But, like any other sacred spiritual practice, religious education and exploration with our youngest UU elders requires a humble yet courageous spirit and an open heart.

It’s holy work. It’s ministry, in the truest sense of the word. It’s a hospitality, as Parker says, “that benefits the host even more than the guest.” One of my favorite lines in Maria Harris’ Fashion Me a People: Curriculum in the Church, one of those classics that we all have to read in seminary is, ”whether in church or beyond, teaching itself is a fundamentally religious activity in the sense that it is always, at root, in the direction of deepest meaning, ultimate origin, and fmal destiny … if teachers would take off their shoes on each teaching occasion in the conviction that they are on holy ground, they could envision this truth more easily.”

While it would be awesome if all this whole congregation, upon hearing this sermon, leapt up from the pews and ran to the lifespan RE table in the gallery to sign up for classroom time, that is an unrealistic expectation on my part. What I do hope, though, is that a critical mass of you does just that, but that all of us remember to daily remember to play, to (whether figuratively or literally) take off our shoes, realizing that, in doing so, we are on holy ground. My prayer is that we remember that, through the very serious business of silly, seemingly meaningless play, we are engaging in the very essence of what it means to be living members of this vast universe.


 

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Margaret Sanger

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
August 25, 2013

Margaret Sanger, an early activist for women’s reproductive health was ridiculed, vilified and persecuted. She was far from perfect, but she still can be one of our heroes.


 

One of my friends from Alabama has a shrine in the hallway of his house. Over a little shelf with candles on it hangs a picture of Jesus. On one side of Jesus hangs another picture, this one of President Jimmy Carter. On the other side is University of Alabama football coach Bear Bryant.

One of the sources of our Unitarian Universalist faith is the prophetic words and deeds of great men and women. In believing that there is ongoing revelation about the truth of things, one lets go of thinking that all truth has been laid out for us, that a sacred book could have answers to everything. Truth is revealed through actions and words, not only of ancient people but of people who have made history in our own lifetimes. We also learn from the words and deeds of the people down the street in our neighborhood, sitting next to us on the subway, dancing to the swing band while we play the fiddle.

I have been thinking for years about whose pictures might make up my shrine, if I were to build one. I might have pictures of Ralph Waldo Emerson, Robin Hood, Margaret Sanger, Bette Midler. I wasn’t raised to have heroes, in the sense of believing someone was without flaws. My father taught me that the line between creation and destruction runs down the middle of every person. He adored JFK, and maybe he thought of him as a hero, but he was well aware of at least a few of the man’s weaknesses. This sense that everyone is flawed has kept me from building a shrine like my friend’s.

It’s getting harder and harder to admire people with your whole heart. We come to realize unsavory things about Thomas Jefferson or Jimmy Carter. Someone says Bette Midler wasn’t kind to the little people on her way to the top. Bear Bryant certainly wasn’t a perfect hero. Apparently Gandhi had a difficult relationship with his children. Should we allow ourselves to enshrine people who do a variety of deeds, some enlightened and some egregious? Perhaps we could keep our sense of purity if we allow as much of their picture in our shrine as represents the percentage ofthem that is admirable, so we would have tom up confetti photographs in a montage.

I would hate to think how I might have to rip off chunks of my photograph if I wanted to be up there amongst my heroes. If! demand perfection of them, surely I must demand it of myself, right?

So I’m stuck. I want to draw from words and deeds of great men and women, but how do you tell who is great and who isn’t? What if I love some of the things Emerson said and did and I don’t love others? What if one of my friends is brave and kind, adventuresome, healthy and skilled, but clumsy at relationships and bad with money? I still admire my friend.

The ancient Greek heroes all had flaws, and their gods had flaws. The characters moving through the Hebrew Scriptures had flaws, yet they are held up to us as models of faithfulness and bravery. Where did I get this idea that the people in my shrine should be perfect? Where did I get the idea that perfection had anything to do with greatness? The revelation of truth, in my life, has come from things people have written and said, from a painting by Mark Rothko, and from music by Josquin des Prez.

I just got a swift and lovely “beyond categorical thinking” lesson from a burly Alaskan man in his seventies. His hair was white and somewhat uncombed, his boots were scuffed and his khakis wrinkled. He was getting a pedicure in the Fairbanks nail salon where we were doing the same. That took me aback a little, but it was when I saw him hand the lady a bottle of autumn bronze polish that I had to admit I had looked at him and judged him as a certain type of man. He showed me handily that I had no idea what type of man he was, and for that I thank him. His picture would be in my shrine for a while, at least.

Suddenly it has occurred to me that those I enshrine don’t have to be the same people year in and year out. Guides need to change as the path changes. I might need a model of insane courage at one point in my life, while at another point I may not be taking the same risks I would were I responsible only for myself. At that point I may want a model of care and gentle thoroughness.

I can relax. Perfection and greatness, I think, are unrelated. I can now respond with equanimity to the people who love to burst my bubble about people I admire by telling me Gandhi’s children hated him, or that Bette Midler was rude to them, or that Robin Hood is fictional. I’ll just mutter “Your mom’s fictional” under my breath and light my candles in peace.

I wanted to start with this, because we’re going to talk about a particular world-changing individual this morning, and what she brought into the world was what it was, with both good and bad consequences. Would she be a hero in my shrine? She certainly affected my life, and I’m betting she has influenced yours. She enabled me to do what I have done with my one wild and precious life.

Margaret Sanger was one of the eleven living children of a woman who had eighteen pregnancies. Her mom was Catholic and her dad was an atheist. “The Village Atheist,” Mike Wallace says in a dismissive tone in his 1957 interview with Sanger, which I watched on YouTube Friday. He had served in the Civil War, which would make anyone an atheist. The family admired Socialists. Margaret and her ten siblings were jeered at on their way to school, called “devil’s children.” Nice way to grow up. It may have made a hostile Mike Wallace a bit less intimidating. Seeing her mother die at 49, her body ravaged by constant pregnancies, she blamed her father for the death. She left home to train as a nurse, but married a nice Leftist architect and settled in the suburbs of New York. She had three children.

When their home burned down, they re-settled in the City. Margaret became involved in socialist politics, in workers’ rights, in the bohemian culture of their neighborhood, Greenwich Village, and started writing a sex education column called “what every mother should know.” She began working among the poor and immigrant families in the Lower East Side” delivering babies for whom there was little room, little food, tending to women who were suffering from botched five-dollar terminations or from trying to do that themselves (I’m speaking a bit indirectly because there aren’t only adults in the room). People begged her for information on how to prevent this happening again and again. The Catholic Church hierarchy was opposed to this information being distributed, but the law was also against it. The Comstock Act had made it illegal since 1873 to speak about birth control, claiming it was an obscenity. Doctors could not send information through the US Mail. Medical textbooks containing this information could not be mailed.

Margaret went to the libraries in New York to research for some information on contraception to give her patients, but couldn’t find anything. In her speeches she told of a patient named Sadie Sachs, whom she met after Sadie had terminated a pregnancy herself. The second time she was called to Sadie’s family’s apartment for the same reason, Sadie didn’t make it. Sanger said she threw her nursing bag into the comer of the room and swore she wouldn’t take one more patient until she had a way to prevent this dangerous and desperate situation for women and their families. Her father disapproved of her crusade for birth control until she reminded him that, if her mother had been able to control her fertility, he might still have his wife. Then she had his support.

With the influence of some of her anarchist friends, among them Emma Goldman, she came to believe that only by freeing women from the risk of unwanted pregnancy would fundamental social change take place. She started a monthly eight-page publication called “The Woman Rebel,” and talked about birth control, which was a radical term at the time. She liked how direct it was, and, later, when she founded Planned Parenthood, she disapproved of the name they chose as being too soft. She began writing a sixteen page how-to guide called “Family Limitation” which included graphics and details about how reproduction works and how to interfere with it. “The Woman Rebel” was sent out, but the Postal authorities managed to suppress the first five issues. In August of 1914 she was indicted under the federal anti-obscenity laws. Instead of standing trial, she jumped bail and sailed to England under a pseudonym, ordering the release of “Family Limitation” while en route. In England she was supported by the people who were alarmed about population explosion and the limited food resources of the planet. (It was fascinating to see the 1957 Mike Wallace, hair shining like black patent leather, smoking a cigarette, telling her that, with recent improvements in agriculture, there would be plenty of food, even if they planet’s population increased by and incredible thirty percent.)

When she came back in 1916, she opened a birth control clinic in Brooklyn. Nine days later she was arrested and sentenced to 30 days in a workhouse. The judge said that women should not have the right to have sex with a sense of security that pregnancy would not result. This conviction was appealed, and another judge ruled that physicians could have the right to prescribe birth control for medical reasons. That was the first victory. She was asked to found another clinic up in Harlem, and she staffed it with all African American doctors and nurses. W.E.B. DuBois was on its board of directors. Some have called any enthusiasm for birth control for people of color a kind of genocide. One strand of shame in this story is that some of the things Sanger has said do indicate that she felt children ofthe infirm, and of prisoners, are marked from the beginning, and that some women should be sterilized.

Sanger founded the American Birth Control League, and middle class middle of the road people (not just Anarchists, Socialists and Bohemians) began to join their voices to hers. And they joined their money to hers. One person can speak loudly, but a group of people? Watch out. Sanger travelled to China and Japan, and worked with a prominent Japanese feminist to strengthen the birth control movement there. In 1929 she founded the organization to lobby for changes in federal birth control laws. Having no success with that, 1932 saw her challenge the law again by ordering a diaphragm from Japan. It was confiscated by the US Government, and the ensuing court battle led to a 1936 ruling that overthrew a significant portion of the Comstock Act. In 1937 the American Medical Association adopted contraception as a normal part of medical care. In 1946 she founded the organization that was to become Planned Parenthood. Her dream was of a pill that a woman could take, just one pill a day, that would prevent contraception. Finally, in the early 50’s, she found a research scientist, Greg Pincus, who had just accomplished in vitro fertilization of rabbits. The American press ran a shadowy picture of him with a cigarette hanging out of his mouth, a picture whose overtones whispered “mad scientist.” Sanger visited him to talk about a pill. Hormones are the key, he said, but I don’t have the money to do the research, and you certainly don’t. It would take millions.

Sanger enlisted her friend from the women’s suffrage days, Katharine McCormick, who controlled the International Harvester fortune. She wrote Dr. Pincus a check and told him to get whatever he needed. Shortly thereafter was a pill that prevented pregnancy in rabbits. They needed a physician to try it on humans. Enter a handsome Roman Catholic doctor named John Rock, a Harvard educated infertility specialist. He took on the job because, at 64, he had seen too many women whose lives were ruled by unplanned pregnancies. They tested the pill on women. Now here is one of the streaks of shame in the process. They tested in Puerto Rico, where there were more birth control clinics and looser laws about medical testing. The pill worked, but the side effects were rough. Millions of women in the next twenty years went on the pill. 80 percent of women born since 1945 have been on it. The hormonal dosage has been slashed, so the side effects are fewer these days. And the world, for women who have access to contraception, has changed. We can go to school and have relationships at the same time. We can accomplish things in the world with three or four kids that we might not be able to do with ten or twelve.

She is still under attack. State by state, legislatures are closing family planning clinics. Sanger saw enough pregnancies terminated by desperate women to vow to prevent unwanted pregnancies in any way she could. These clinics provide safer terminations, but much more than that, they prevent countless more abortions by giving information and contraceptives to people who need them. It’s monstrous that those who say they are anti-abortion are, by their legislative actions, going to take away the resources poor families need to prevent abortion. Listen to the Mike Wallace interview, and you will see it permeated by the same hostile engine that runs the current legislative push to close down clinics. The engine is fueled by the religious views of a few. It’s so striking to hear this supposedly neutral journalist passionately the position of the Roman Catholic Church, using terms like “sin” and “evil” to refer to sex without fear of conception. It’s obvious because our culture has changed so much in 56 years. You all were part of the change, and you will be part of the changes still to come.

“I feel we have divinity within us, and the more we express the good part of our lives, the more the divinity is expressed within us… All religions are so much alike, when it comes to the divine part of our being.”

People sometimes ask why there aren’t more women throughout history who have achieved great things. There are some, but when you are already achieving the great thing of building new human beings in your body, braving death to give birth, then getting them as best you can to adulthood, there isn’t much time or energy for anything else unless you have the wealth to pay for help with them, or unless you have something that will help you choose when to invite another member into your family.

I could go to seminary and be married. I could become a therapist and work half time, because I could afford pre-school for two kids. Thank you, Margaret Sanger. Thank you for enduring social abuse and for being thrown into jail eight times to make this enormous change. We wouldn’t have agreed on some things, but you are still one of the heroes in my shrine.


 

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Life of Pi

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
August 18, 2013

In this book, a young Indian boy is shipwrecked, and ends up in a small lifeboat with a tiger. What might the tiger be in his life? What might it be in ours?


 

Life of Pi is a rich story, gorged with beauty, horrific suffering, philosophical pondering, compelling mysteries, intellectual challenge. The story, told to the writer by the adult Pi in his home in Canada, is about a sixteen year old boy named after a public swimming pool in France, Piscine Molitor Patel. Tormented by classmates who call him “pissing,” he takes the nickname Pi, “And so, in that Greek letter that looks like a shack with a corrugated tin roof, in that elusive, irrational number with which scientists try to understand the universe, I found refuge.”

Pi is a religious Hindu boy, but while the family is on vacation in the hill country, he is drawn to a Christian chapel. The priest is there, and they have conversations. Pi is outraged at how un god-like Jesus is, from his doubts to his hunger to his suffering to actually consenting to die. When he asks the priest why a god would do that, the priest answers “love.” After three days of talking, Pi asks to be a Christian, and the priest says “you already are, in your heart.”

A year later, in his hometown, he meets a Muslim baker, a Sufi mystic who speaks, enraptured, about “The Beloved.” Pi begins to study the Koran with him and becomes a Muslim. On his next birthday he tells his parents he wants a Muslim prayer rug and he wants to be baptized as a Christian. Both of them are modem Indians, secular and sensible. They get him a prayer rug but they don’t like it. On a walk one day, the whole family is confronted by the Sufi teacher, a Christian priest and the Hindu pandit.

“Your son has gone Muslim” he says.

“He is a good Christian boy,” the priest says. “We hope to have him in our choir soon.”

“You are mistaken. He’s a good Muslim boy. He comes without fail to Friday prayers, and his knowledge of the Holy Qu’ran is coming along nicely.” They have a vigorous debate there in the street in front of Pi’s horrified parents. This, he says, was his introduction to interfaith dialogue.

“He must choose,” they conclude.

“But I just want to love God,” Pi says. He tells a story about Lord Krishna dancing with the milkmaids; he makes himself so abundant that he can dance with each of them at the same time. As soon as one imagines she is his only partner, though, he vanishes. His parents allow him to be all three.

One of his school teachers, Mr. Kumar, is an atheist. Pi recognizes him with respect and calls him a brother believer. “Like me,” he says, “they go as far as reason will carry them — and then they leap. ” The agnostics are the ones he cannot relate to. “Doubt is useful or a while …. But we must move on. To choose doubt as a philosophy of life is akin to choosing immobility as a mode of transportation. “

Pi describes his preferred stance in the world as “an intellect confounded, and yet a trusting sense of presence and of ultimate purpose. Why look at life with a “dry, yeastless factuality. – God is the better story.” Why not love God? It’s a better story.

Pi’s family owns a zoo. He grows up with a pride oflions for his alarm clock, with peacocks, tigers and monkeys all around. He learns how dangerous their wildness is, how much animals are creatures of habit and routine, territory, and hierarchy. This knowledge is life-saving later on.

They decide to sell the zoo to a Canadian company, pack up all the animals and take a Japanese freighter toward Canada. One night in the middle of the Pacific, the ship sinks in a storm. Fast. Pi is on a life boat. On it with him are a zebra, who has broken its leg leaping onto the boat, an orangutan, a hyena and an adult Bengal tiger named Richard Parker who climbs into the boat from the sea during the storm. Over the next several chapters the hyena eats the zebra and the orangutan. The tiger kills the hyena.

Pi needs to get rid of the tiger, but how? Maybe he could just not feed the tiger, and just outlive him? No. A hungry tiger would be worse to have in the boat with you. Pi spends the night in a panic, his body shaking. “Fear is life’s only true opponent.” He says,” Only fear can defeat life.”

p.134 “You might think I lost all hope at that point. I did. As a result I perked up and felt much better. We see that in sports all the time, don’t we? The tennis challenger starts strong but soon loses confidence in his playing. The champion racks up the games. But in the final set, when the challenger has nothing left to lose, he becomes relaxed again, insouciant, daring. Suddenly he’s playing like the devil and the champion must work hard to get those last points. So it was with me.”

The next morning it comes to him. He must tame the tiger. That’s the only plan that will work. “It was not a question of him or me, but him and me.”

“But there’s more to it. I will come clean. I will tell you a secret. Part of me was glad about Richard Parker. A part of me did not want Richard Parker to die at all, because if he died I would be left alone with despair, a foe even more formidable than a tiger. “

Establishing Alpha-Omega relationships with major lifeboat pests, “he says, “is not covered in the life boat survival manual. “

Pi sets about training the tiger, marking territory, using the tiger’s weak sea legs to make him seasick while Pi blows on a whistle, making the tiger associate feeling weak and sick with Pi’s mighty roaring. Pi feeds Richard Parker and gathers fresh water for him. They go blind together from the lack of good food. Nearly dead, they wash up on the shore of Mexico together, whereupon the tiger bounds off into the jungle without a backward glance, leaving Pi to Mexican medical personnel and officials from the Japanese shipping line.

He tells two officials from the shipping line the amazing stories of his seven months in the boat. They say it’s hard to believe that he was in the boat with a full grown tiger for seven months and lived.

We’re just being reasonable,” they say.

Pi replies, “So am I! I applied my reason at every moment. Reason is excellent for getting food, clothing and shelter. Reason is the very best tool kit. Nothing beats reason for keeping tigers away. But be excessively reasonable and you risk throwing out the universe with the bathwater.”

The Japanese shipping officials insist Pi tell them “what really happened.” He insists that they just want another story. As soon as you put the experience of a life into language it becomes a story. Do they just want a story without animals?

Yes, without animals, they say.

He tells a horrific story where his mother, a brutish chef, a Taiwanese sailor and he are in the life boat. After a few days the chef kills the sailor, then Pi’s mother. Pi kills the chef and is alone in the boat.

After telling both stories, he asks the Japanese officials of the shipping company which was the better story. The one with the animals, they answered. Pi said “Thank you. And so it goes with God.”

They draw the parallels. If the zebra is the sailor, the awful chef is the hyena, the orangutan must be Pi’s mother. Then Pi himself is the tiger.

I think life is at times like being shipwrecked. We drift along for a time, powerless.

There is a tiger in the boat. Maybe it’s our wild side, our need to mess things up, our fear, our addiction. Maybe the tiger in the boat is loneliness, the sense of being invisible. Maybe anger is what threatens to destroy you, yet if you kill it, you also kill a piece of yourself that keeps you alive.

So you drift, and from the story of Pi we see someone drifting, filled with a sense of belonging to the Divine, released by letting go and believing he will be okay, having the will to live until he dies, feeling that will be okay too.

How is this a story of Unitarian Universalist spirituality? We are spiritually free to be Muslim, Christian and Hindu, even though others may say we have to choose. Weare free to be atheists or to tell our own story of what it is that we worship. Anyone who puts an experience with Mystery into words – really, any experience into words— is telling a story. Why not choose the best story for you? The one that holds the most layers of truth? Your idea of God may be of a powerful being who holds the whole universe in her hand, or of a suffering loving being who understands what it is to be human, who even holds the experience of real death in his heart. Your idea may be of one flame from which all other candles are lit. Your idea may be of a force of love or truth or justice that flows through the world, or for you, the earth itself is alive and that is what makes your soul blossom like a rose and gives you the power to tame the tiger.


 

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The Oversoul

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
August 11, 2013

So much of UU conversation has been about what we don’t believe. Let’s talk about one thing handed down to us by Emerson and the Transcendentalists – that there is one soul for all things.


 

I remember a class in Seminary where I sat stunned as the professor laid out my whole hard-won system of beliefs on the blackboard, listing the tenets of Mystical Pietism. I thought I had put that thing together over years of high school and college, late-night conversations, wrestling with what I’d been taught as a child, setting some of it aside, honing other pieces of it until they fit what I could live with, what made sense to me. Later, after most of that had fallen apart and I had walked out of its wreckage into what felt like a freer, more truthful philosophy, I was shocked again to read the tenets of Transcendentalism and find that there, laid out, was a list of my whole hard-won system of beliefs. Again.

I’ll read you the list in a few minutes, and you can see whether you are Unitarian Universalist in the Emersonian tradition. First let me tell you a little bit about him. His father was a Unitarian minister who died when Emerson was 8. Several of his brothers and sisters died in childhood, and two more brothers died of tuberculosis as young men. He fell in love with a very young woman, Ellen Tucker, whom he met in Concord MA on Christmas Day in 1827. They married two years later. He was 27 and she was 18. His mother moved to Boston with them so she could take care of Ellen, who was already sick with TB. Emerson was working as a minister, and his faith took one more blow when Ellen died, at 20. He wrote in his journal a year later that he had gone to visit Ellen at her grave and opened the coffin. She was due to inherit a large sum of money when she turned 21, but never made it that far. Waldo (as he preferred to be called) sued the family and was awarded her portion of the inheritance, which gave him an income equivalent to the one he was paid yearly as a minister.

He traveled, wrote, read, and supported his friends who gathered around Concord in what became almost a “genius cluster,” with the Alcotts, Nathaniel Hawthorne, Henry David Thoreau and Margaret Fuller visiting, walking with him, talking intensely about the Eastern philosophies of Hinduism and Buddhism, just coming into the American consciousness, about the abolition of slavery and women’s suffrage. Their association enriched all of them. He married another woman named Lydia, whom he renamed Lydian, and she took care of everyone.

Too much had happened for Waldo to be comfortable believing in the traditional picture of a God who was a personality, in charge of everything. He and the skeptics around him struggled with the ageold conundrum: if God is God, he is not good. If he is good, he is not God.

If the belief that God was a personality, and that this personality was all-powerful was the root of the problem set before him by the skeptics, then perhaps it would be good to let go of that view of God. What do you go on? Not just scripture. There were lots of scriptures from lots of religions – how do you claim one is the truth? The Christian scriptures were being used to justify slavery and to keep women from taking their place beside men as their equals.

Do you go on other people’s instructions to you? No. You had to attend to your own experiences. Personal experience was something he felt you had to trust – your experiences and those of others.

Why are there some moments in life glow with meaning and with power? Some conversations have a depth and quality others do not, some people who seemed to be centered in something that others know nothing about. How do most people know what’s right and wrong, and why do we feel bad when we do something wrong? What can explain the feeling about the Divine that humans have in every time and culture? What feels true? What felt true to Waldo about God was that God was immanent, meaning nearby in life. “As close to me as my jugular vein,” as the Koran says. It made sense to him that God was in the world, in Nature, and that you could learn about the Divine by learning about Nature. He discounted the miracles in the scriptures, saying they had nothing to do with the blowing clover or the falling rain, that they were “Monster,” unnatural, and unworthy of the Divinity.

Emerson said a human being is a stream whose source is hidden, whose being is pouring in from somewhere else. As the earth lies in the soft arms of the atmosphere, every particular person is contained in the Over-soul, the Unity within which we are all made one with all other. There is a common heart. All sincere conversation is its worship, all right action is submission to it. It is that force that makes us feel enlarged by doing good and diminished by doing wrong.

Within each person is the soul of the whole; the wise silence; the universal beauty, to which every part and particle is equally related; the eternal ONE. And this deep power in which we exist, and whose beatitude is all accessible to us. When it breathes through our intellect, it is genius; when it breathes through our will, it is virtue; when it flows through our affection, it is love

Emerson was not alone in describing a new way to see God. Samuel Reed, another minister of that time in Boston, a huge influence on Emerson, called for a religion that sees God in everything.

Emerson wrote in the mid-1800’s that each person makes her own religion, his own God. What is God? “The most elevated conception of character that can be formed in the mind. It is the individual’s own soul carried out to perfection.” He called this the “oversoul.”

Emerson opened up the thinking of his time to the possibility that there is only one Soul, the soul of all things. That is God. Soul is in all things, in us, and the One soul makes itself manifest through our lives, our actions, our voices when they are creative, when they are useful, when they advance the cause of life and of love, truth and beauty. Could this be a way to think about a Higher Power for those of us who feel a need to think that way? Some among us are satisfied with the God or power or force they don’t believe in, or the one they do believe in. Others want to talk about it, not to make creeds or pronouncements, but to honor experiences we have had where we were loved or guided or lifted by something outside of ourselves. What do we call it? How do we talk about it without having to submit to doctrines and oppressive authority? The Oversoul, the One, the Source, maybe those are some ways for us to name this unnamable thing that we feel. See if this list captures some of your beliefs.

Basic Tenets of American Transcendentalism:

This list must not be considered to be a creed common to all transcendentalists. It is merely a grouping of certain important concepts shared by many of them.

  • The human soul is part of the Oversoul or universal spirit

 

  • Therefore, every individual is to be respected because everyone has a portion of that Oversoul or life force. (God).

 

  • This Oversoul or Life Force or God can be found everywhere, a deep power in which we exist.

 

  • The divine can be found in both nature and human nature

 

  • Jesus also had part of the Oversoul – so he was divine as everyone is divine –

 

  • The miracles of the Bible are not to be regarded as important as the whole world is a miracle and the smallest creature is one.

 

  • More important than a concern about the afterlife, should be a concern for this life – Emerson: “the one thing in the world of value is the active soul.”

 

  • Death is never to be feared, for at death the soul merely passes to the Oversoul.

 

  • Emphasis should be placed on the here and now. “Give me one world at a time.” – Thoreau

 

  • Evil is merely an absence of good and not a force in its own right. Light is more powerful than darkness because one ray of light penetrates the dark.

 

  • One must have faith in intuition and experience, for no church or creed can communicate truth.

 

  • The unity of life and universe must be realized. There is a relationship, an interconnectedness between all things.

 

Are you a Transcendentalist? Do you desire to respect the Divine element in yourself, others and the rest of Nature? Might you believe that transformation comes through expanding our awareness of the Divine in all aspects of your life? Does it make sense to you that to be truly human, we need to live in community with others? I think I’m a Transcendentalist, which places me squarely in the middle of Unitarian Universalist tradition. If you are a Christian, you are squarely in the middle of UU tradition as well. If you are more of a Humanist, you are also squarely in the middle of UU tradition. The stream of thought, yearning, conversation and action in which we stand is a very large one. It feels good to have so much gone before and imagine all of those who will come after us in this faith.


 

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Defense against the dark arts

Rev. Meg Barnhouse
August 4, 2013

We’re afraid of all the wrong things.


 

Sermon

In October of second grade we lived through the Cuban Missile Crisis. The teachers at the Mulberry Street Elementary School drill us on getting under our desks, crouching down on our knees, putting our hands over our heads. That was how we were to weather a nuclear missile attack. I was scared. At night I would listen in fear to every plane that flew overhead. I waited for the engines to sputter like they did in the movies when a plane dropped a bomb. I waited for the whistling sound of the bomb falling on Statesville, NC. Sometimes I pictured the bottom land where I rode horses burned and black. I saw myself wandering the streets not able to find my mama or my sister. Even then I knew dying wasn’t the worst of it. Children spend a lot of time being scared.

I was scared of bees, too. I’ve spoken about the time I opened the door of my mother’s station wagon while she was on the highway, ready to jump out because there was a bee buzzing against the window by my face.

Fear can serve a purpose – it moves us out of situations that might be dangerous. It spurs us to protect ourselves, keep deadlines, use discipline in our behavior. It can make us stupid, though. “Fear is the mind-killer,” goes the quotation from Frank Herbert’s Dune. ” rest of the quote: ” I must not fear. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

Some people like to be scared. Horror movies where scary men threaten beautiful women. Those movies wouldn’t work if the scary guy was threatening middle aged men, or ordinary looking people, or dogs. I’m not sure why we love to see beautiful people screaming. The news. Awful things happen. Horrors occur. Goodness happens, and humans help one another, but many factors go in to what stories are chosen for the news. I majored in political science, more particularly in the media at Duke, and we learned that one of journalism’s credos is “If it bleeds, it leads.” Good news just doesn’t sell papers, or generate clicks on the web site. Stations in the northeast run stories about how awful things are in the Southeast. Stations in the south run stories about how awful things are in the northern cities. Stories are most likely to be covered if the news people are there already, which is why the coasts figure prominently. News people love stories about themselves, so when the President doesn’t let the photographers follow him onto the golf course, you will have a couple of days worth of stories about that.

The stock central character in a lot of scary news stories is the black man. You see men of color being perp walked into the police station, you see their mug shots. When white collar criminals bring the world’s economy to the brink of collapse, none of them is photographed with their wrists cuffed, none of them is shown trying to escape police. Sometimes they are not prosecuted at all. This is a complex issue, but I want to point out how dangerous it is for black men, who can’t take a run at night, who get pulled out of their cars and rousted even a few days ago when their car is a police-issue black SUV and they are a New York City Police Chief, and who are in danger of being shot by law enforcement. The incident occurred as the NYPD is under fire for record numbers of pedestrians being stopped and frisked, the majority of them black or Hispanic. Some 145,098 people were stopped by the NYPD in the first quarter of this year.

Now we black men and we families of black men have to be worried that we will be shot by neighborhood watch people with guns. Our stereotypes can be deadly.

Another scary character is “the government.” I know a woman who says the government has wave machines that send waves over crowded places to lower the electromagnetic vibrations of the people so they will be angrier, more fearful, thus more easily controlled. She’s very nice, but that’s nuts. No government I’ve known has been that sneaky or well organized. Some people say that the media are keeping us scared so we won’t look at the corporate culture that eats up our family lives by making us work harder and harder, our culture that plagues middle class families with consumer debt because our minds are controlled to work more, work more, to buy more, buy more. I think that is giving the media too much credit for organization and malice.

People make money on our fears of someone breaking into our houses, even though we are much more likely to be hurt by the other people locked into those houses with us. They make money on our fear of identity theft, and it happens, but we’re more likely to ruin our own credit and good name than someone else is.

All of us have fears. Some of them serve their purpose, but some of them get stuck, and they are changing our chemistry, shortening our lives without doing us any good. Sometimes they make the thing we’re scared of worse. I raised two children on not very much money, so I got scared of bills. I just stopped opening them. That did not make them go away. In fact, that fear of opening mail cost me money.

Some practical suggestions on how to be brave. Some coaches suggest you keep an imaginary room in your mind where you keep outfits that will help you. You go in there and put on the accountant’s suit, and do your bills. You put on the fencer’s uniform and mask and go into the business meeting. You put on your wizard’s robes and sit down to write your book.

A less fanciful suggestion is made by (oddly) Merlin, in The Once and Future King. You heard me tell the children. Learn more about it. If you get a bad diagnosis, learn all you can about it. If you have to go through bankruptcy, learn all you can about it. If you are afraid of a certain kind of people, learn what you can about some individuals in that group. Some people are scary, but you can’t tell the scary ones by what group they’re in.

The best thing for being sad,” replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, “is to learn something. That’s the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then – to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot of things there are to learn.”

Many people are afraid of terrorists in our country, and we should definitely defend ourselves against terrorism, but when you learn a little about it, you learn that:

You are 8 times more likely to be killed by a police officer than by a terrorist

You are 8 times more likely to die from accidental electrocution than from a terrorist attack

You are 6 times more likely to die from hot weather than from a terrorist attack

Number of persons killed on American soil so far this year by terrorists: 3.

Number of persons killed on American soil so far this year by toddlers: 5.

We are scared of our children being gunned down at school, or being killed in a terrorist attack. Horribly, it happens. But learn more. We lose 5 children a day in the US in abuse-related deaths. We are scared to walk at night in our neighborhoods, scared to hike in the woods alone. We are scared to die by the hand of someone breaking into our home and murdering us.

We are scared to be killed by ricin or anthrax. So know this: We will be more likely be killed by driving too fast or eating too much fat or sitting on the couch night after night, resolving to exercise rather than actually exercising.

Here is what I am thinking. We’re scared of the wrong things. We lock our car doors and take our kids home to where the guns are. We tell them all about being wary of strangers, and we forget to tell them about protecting themselves from uncles and cousins. We don’t let our neighbors into our lives and shut ourselves off so there is no one to turn to when we’re in trouble. We are scared of people who are different from us, we don’t want to know them, we worry that they want to rob or rape us, we’re also worried that lunging to lock the car door will hurt their feelings.

Isolation is greatly to be feared, but our fears keep us alone. Ignorance is greatly to be feared, but our fears keep us at home, associating only with folks of our same nationality, class and color. Rigidity is greatly to be feared, but our fears keep us from bending, growing, changing in a supple way. Missing life is greatly to be feared, but our fears lock us down into a narrowness of experience that sucks the marrow from our bones and leaves us dried up husks in nice brick homes with satisfactory retirement funds. Looking like a fool is greatly to be feared, but our fears make us keep silent when we should speak up and talk to much when we should be quiet. Yeah, we are scared of all the wrong things.

If you find yourself afraid of something, get to know it. check out its reality. Do some research.

Get to know yourself. Don’t ignore the violence in your own heart. Or in your own home.

Take the anti-racism course here in the fall. Increase your cultural competency. Practice seeing individuals rather than members of a group.

Encourage people not to be afraid. Even being afraid of Cancer doesn’t help. Many people overestimate their odds of getting it, and studies show that the greater a person’s fear is, the less likely they are to go to the doctor for timely diagnosis and treatment..

Take a small action to make things better. Most of you are doing that already. If you want a way to do it, talk to me or to Jack, our Social Concerns chair, and we will try to set you up. Refuse to be afraid. Refuse to be afraid.

Take a small action to make things better. Most of you are doing that already Refuse to stay afraid. Refuse to stay afraid.

Fearing Paris
by Marsha Truman Cooper

Suppose that what you fear
could be trapped
and held in Paris.
Then you would have
the courage to go
everywhere in the world.

All the directions of the compass
open to you,
except the degrees east or west
of true north
that lead to Paris.

Still, you wouldn’t dare
put your toes
smack dab on the city limit line.
You’re not really willing
to stand on a mountainside,
miles away,
and watch the Paris lights
come up at night.

Just to be on the safe side
you decide to stay completely
out of France.
But then the danger
seems too close
even to those boundaries,
and you feel
the timid part of you
covering the whole globe again.

You need the kind of friend
who learns your secret and says,
“See Paris First.”


 

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UU Minister – Some dis-assembly required

Nell Newton
July 28, 2013

The process of building a minister includes a certain amount of disassembling the person who wanted to become a minister. There are many ways this is done -countless personal essays, stacks of reading, somber committees that decide one’s fitness -but one of the most discombobulating assignments is Chaplaincy work. The experience is expected to upend a student’s certainty. And afterwards, they usually write at least one sermon about the experience. This is be one of those sermons! My CPE Sermon


Reading
Untitled Poem
by Theresa Ines Soto
posted on Facebook – used with permission

Jesus. Never had to go to seminary.
He was wunderkind.
He never had cerebral palsy; He died
Once though. Jesus never had a broken
scooter, but over and over, he had a
broken heart. Me too, once or twice.
Sometimes I think I won’t
Make it, can’t do it. About that, Jesus said:
It takes more than bread
to stay alive. It takes a steady stream
of words from God’s mouth.”
God’s words for me are:
the sunset, the boats on the lake,
the perfection of all the ways God
is reflected in Beloved Community.
Jesus. Did the work that fell to Him
Until It Was Finished. I don’t even
Have to die to complete my work,
But maybe I can hold on for one
More day. Maybe that would be good.

Theresa Ines Soto is 41, a Latina, a 3rd-wave feminist, a lawyer, a seminarian, and a woman who has cerebral palsy. She walks with a cane and uses a scooter to get around. The scooter she uses now is a cheap one that goes slowly and is prone to tipping. She had a really great, really expensive scooter, but it was stolen last year.

She was born prematurely and her parents were told she wouldn’t live. Then they were told that she would live, but she’d never walk or talk. Then they were told that she might talk or walk, but that she’d never have the mental capacity to be independent. Each time they heard this information, her parents said “Okay”. She appreciates their willingness to love their daughter no matter what.

For me, spending time with Theresa means slowing myself down a bit. I slow my pace to match her scooter as its battery drains during the day. It means that I slow my ears down to the cadence of her voice which is quite clear and articulate, but slower. It means that I have to slow down my brain to make it work more carefully to notice how it would automatically presume that because her body is different, that her mind must be different too. I am better for having slowed down with Theresa. She’s going to make a difference in our denomination.

When she prays, it is with a relaxed forthrightness that is startling to my ears.


 

Sermon

UU Minister – Some Dis-Assembly Required

In the few years that I’ve been paying attention, I’ve noticed that seminary students who are entrusted with a pulpit will inevitably trot out some predictable sermons. There will be a ponderous sermon on Unitarian history – complete with footnotes – it’s really just a summary of a recent research paper. There will also be a sermon or two on The Seven Principles, or The Five Smooth Stones. There will usually be a chirpy sermon along the lines of “Let’s not forget the Universalists!” And, there will be, should be, a sermon where the student talks about their chaplaincy internship. It’s in these internships where we get our heads out of the books and throw our bodies into the front lines of pastoral work, generally in a hospital setting. And this, dear kind people, this is my chaplaincy sermon….

I was warned by others who had already completed their chaplaincy programs: “You’ll get what you need to learn about from chaplaincy.” One friend told about a student who had been uncomfortable with death and dying and, naturally, while on call, he got lots of experience with death and dying patients. He had waaay more than any of the other students. And, by the end of their program he was much better equipped to deal with death and dying.

During chaplaincy, non-theists start feeling connected to something larger and theists start arguing with a god who allows so much suffering… Yep. Whatever you need to work on, it will find you during chaplaincy training. I knew this when I was assigned to work at Brackenridge hospital last fall.

What did I need to learn about? The chill of dread rose up as I contemplated where I might be harboring unspoken resistance or denial. Would I be faced with blood, trauma, sick kids, sick parents, or something so un-doing that I couldn’t imagine being able to handle it??? Each time I started an overnight or weekend shift, I was gripped with a quiet worry that THIS time I would be forced to confront my deepest fears. And, each time, I simply found myself going about the work that was asked of me – listening, crying, hugging, joking, praying, and filling out the paperwork afterwards. I never came home completely undone or unable to speak my own name.

Here’s the work we were doing – most of the time it was just visiting with patients who were otherwise bored, or lonesome, but often we were called to show up during times where people needed spiritual or emotional support. It seemed like the other students in my program had it much harder – their shifts were filled with fighting families, multiple trauma victims, and worse. My shifts weren’t exactly picnics – no sooner than I’d lie down to rest then my pager would go off. But I seemed to get easier nights, simpler problems, less complicated paperwork… What awful undoing was waiting for me?

Among the hospital workers you were never supposed to wish them a “quiet” night – that would jinx it for sure. So, instead I would wish folks a “boring” night. And, then, I found myself saying a small and private prayer. A friend of mine sends his prayers to the Great To Whom It May Concern, but I found myself asking a Great Mother to hold the entirety of the hospital with compassion and to support the caregivers as well as those needing care. I’ve never thought of myself as a Goddess worshipping sort, and I wasn’t trying to make a theological point, but it seemed like the right thing to do. The Great Mother just seemed to be closer at hand in the hospital.

You see, despite all of the training we went through to prepare for the work, once we were let loose onto the hospital floors and into patient’s rooms, we all reverted to instinct and improvisation. And each of us found that the only way we could serve was to be exactly who we already were. The title “chaplain” just gave us a bit more authority to do it well! We simply lived into what was expected and asked of us.

A nurse called late one evening. A patient needed surgery, but was nervous. Could I come? Sure. Outside his room the nurse pulled me aside – the patient was a young man whose leg was mangled in a wreck. He was all alone and scared. In the nurse’s opinion, he needed some Mama energy. Well… as luck should have it… He was only a couple years older than my own son — handsome, pale, and frightened. He had never had surgery before and was afraid that he wouldn’t wake up from the anesthesia. I held his hand, smoothed his hair, listened, and placed a blessing upon him. The tears that he had been fighting back spilled out easily and he finally relaxed enough to agree to go ahead. I walked alongside his bed as he was wheeled down to surgery. I gave his hand a little squeeze and promised him that I’d be up to see him later. Then as they rolled him into the surgery area, I placed another silent blessing upon him, the surgeons, the nurses, and the man who was cleaning the hall floor at 11:00 at night. Later on I stopped by his room. He was bleary from the anesthesia, but he recognized me and grinned when I congratulated him on surviving.

And that was the Great Mother at work. I obeyed her imperative to soothe the children no matter what their age.

On another occasion I was called to visit a mother who was unraveling. She was almost vibrating with worry over her toddler whose head was wrapped with yards of tape to hold monitor wires in place. I helped him start a Thomas the Tank Engine video and then sat down to visit. The mom was exhausted not just with the worry over her son’s seizures, but with the dread of dealing with other family members who were emotionally more reserved. She felt like wailing and weeping, and felt judged and self-conscious. As we chatted I praised her beautiful child’s curiosity and appetite and listened to her fears and bravery. Finally I offered her the blessing that every parent needs to hear: “You are a wonderful mother and you are doing a good job raising this child.” She took a deep breath, nodded gratefully, and went back to patting her son to sleep.

And that was the Great Mother at work. I gave voice to her deep compassion for the terrifying work of parenting.

Caring for humans is messy, stinky, and funny. These bodies are the stuff of dirt and humor. Indeed, the word “humor” is rooted in the Latin for bodily fluids… And, often, what I brought with me into patient rooms was not just a readiness to witness the divine, but to also witness the absurdity and silliness of our selves.

One day I found myself offering a completely improvised prayer – actually all of my better prayers were spontaneous, jazz riffs created with whatever we had handy – and this prayer was with a woman who was stuck in bed, unable to walk because of pain in her hips, or, as she put it more delicately, her “backside”. The prayer included a desire to see her become unstuck and able to move easily into her future days. Our prayer was light and hopeful and not very serious. Two days later I visited and she had been up and done a lap around the nurses’ station! “It was that prayer!” She laughed, “I told my kids that you prayed for my BUTT and anyone who would do that is someone I can get along with!” I demurred, “Well… I figured that your butt is part of you, and you are part of all that is holy, so it made sense to me….” We laughed and the healing continued.

And that was the Great Mother at work. She is delighted by our laughter, as it bubbles up and lifts us into our creative moments!

So what was it that finally came undone during my chaplaincy work? What was that dark place that I had to look at and accept? Well… I had to accept that that elegant theologies only get you so far. After a point it’s your bodily presence and being that counts. And, more humbling, I realized that my mother was right all along.

And how was my mother right all along? My mother is a classic UU Church Lady. She wears sensible shoes, brings bean salads and an angel food cake to potlucks, and, yes she drives a Prius. My mother was the one who first tried to teach me about The Goddess. But, back then I smiled and nodded. Like so many daughters when their mother tries to pass along good advice, I dismissed it as simply a romantic personification. Perhaps that worked for her theology, but it wasn’t part of mine. Meanwhile, as I read the 18th Century German Liberal Theologians, and Lives of the Great Humanists, I bogged down. My eyeballs wearied and I felt as if there was really no place for me in this work of ministry. I should just go back into the kitchen and give up. How will I ever sound like someone who knows their stuff? As it turns out, I never will with any certainty. And, that’s okay. As a chaplain, I learned that it’s more important to show up than to be certain. The Great Mother showed this to me over and over. Does this make me a full-on Goddess Worshipper? I’m not sure.

“I hate this!” a man moaned. “I feel so bad that everyone has to work so hard to take care of me. I don’t want to be a burden to my family. They have better things to do!” How many times did I hear this from people who were ashamed of their vulnerability, pinned down by the weight of their infirmities, and feeling guilty of taking more than they feel that they deserve. In this world, in this culture, we are supposed to be upright individuals who create our own destinies as full agents. And when we wind up in a hospital bed, all of that is thrown upside down. We become needful and our agency is narrowed by the margins of pain. And, yes, we must depend upon others to care, and clean up, and help us to survive. We must turn to one another for support in walking and guiding the spoonful of food. And, often, those other people are complete strangers wearing drab uniforms.

When I heard that moan, I would assure a patient that this was their time to rest and receive. When it seemed appropriate, I would remind a patient that she is a child of god, and that god’s love guided all of the hands caring for her and to open herself to this love. And, for people who chafed at the indignity of the situation, or felt unworthy, or wondered why they should even bother to survive, I suggested that, truly, our highest purpose is to be with one another. That spilled out of my mouth one day, when tears were running down my own cheeks. It was completely unplanned, spun out of the thin air of that room. The work we are here to do is to simply be with one another. That’s all.

Now, if you also find time to fully and truly love your god and love your neighbor as yourself, then you might even have struck upon a religion worthy of attention! But in the meantime, take this simple observation, based upon experience: The work we are here to do is to simply be with one another. We are given instinct and intellect, and we will make use of whatever resources are at hand. We will find silliness and tears make it all easier, but how well we do that work – how well we be with one another — is how our lives will be measured. How do I know this? My mother, and the Great Mother, told me so!

© 2013 Nell Newton


 

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That little four-letter word called Hope

Chris Jimmerson
July 21, 2013

Chris Jimmerson just completed his second year of seminary at Meadville Lombard School of Theology, one of only two Unitarian Universalist seminaries in the United States. He is currently the minister intern at Wildflower Church. Before entering seminary, Chris served in a variety of lay leadership positions at First Unitarian Universalist Church of Austin where he helped to coordinate the church’s process of discerning its mission and reorganizing its governance structure.


 

What is hope? One of the theologians we studied in seminary last year says that basically there is no such thing as hope, and we should abandon hope and embrace struggle because the struggle is all we have. I am thinking that would not make a very inspiring sermon. How do we have hope without it becoming just wishful thinking?

Reading
-Vaclav Havel, Disturbing the Peace, 1986

Hope is a state of mind, not of the world. Either we have hope or we don’t; it is a dimension of the soul, and it’s not essentially dependent on some particular observation of the world or estimate of the situation. Hope is not prognostication. It is an orientation of the spirit, an orientation of the heart; it transcends the world that is immediately experienced, and is anchored somewhere beyond its horizons…. Hope, in this deep and powerful sense, is not the same as joy that things are going well, or willingness to invest in enterprises that are obviously heading for success, but rather an ability to work for something because it is good, not just because it stands a chance to succeed. The more propitious the situation in which we demonstrate hope, the deeper the hope is. Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the faith that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.

Prayer

Spirit of Love and Life, breathe into us the compassion and courage that will sustain us.

Fill us with gratitude for the faith, grounding and hope to be found through living life filled with boundless and endless love.

When the news from our world is filled with injustice and struggle, as it often has been in these past weeks – when our work to end oppression and bring about the beloved community seems challenging and the road ahead seems long – when we face struggles sometimes just in our daily lives, let us breathe in the spirit of life and dwell in the essence of love.

For in doing so, we find renewal and the knowledge that love shall indeed, in the end, overcome.

For in doing so, we create greater faith and more hope. In doing so, we create our world anew.

So may it be. Amen

Sermon

Not long ago, one of my instructors at seminary was trying to explain to us a theology he called “non-theistic, liberative, naturalistic humanism.” I’m still not sure I completely understand it, but it does make for a great vocal warm up. Before giving any talk or sermon, I just say “non-theistic, liberative, naturalistic humanism” three or four times very quickly and then anything else comes trippingly off the tongue.

Now, I think he was engaging in a bit of seminary professor witticism when he bound all those words and concepts together; however, he was quite serious when he explained that this theology expresses the idea that oppression and human suffering — natural disasters and disease – imperialism and war — just the vagaries of the human condition are so random and so dire that we cannot realistically think that there is a God, much less a kind and loving God. On top of that, according to this theology, our struggles to end oppression occur within a sort of “zero sum game,” where advances attained by one group can only be made at the expense of greater oppression of another. Justice for all cannot be realized.

Thus, a central tenant of this theology is that we should abandon hope and embrace struggle, because the struggle is all we really have. And have a nice day. I ended the class discussion feeling something less than uplifted.

Later, I talked with my partner, Wayne, about it.

He said, “I don’t think you should try preaching that when you get out of seminary and start the search process for a church. None of them will hire you.”

Now, I think Wayne was absolutely right about that, so don’t worry — I’m not testing out an “Abandon All Hope, Ye Who Enter Here” sermon on you today.

However, it did get me thinking about that little four-letter word called “hope”. What exactly is hope, really? Should we have hope?

What is its source and how do we sustain it, especially during the more difficult times of struggle that we do encounter in life? How do we keep it from becoming just wishful thinking?

So, I went on a theological search – a metaphysical quest, if you will, to find the meaning and source of hope. Like any good, modern day spiritual seeker, I did a Google search.

The first link I followed was to the Emily Dickinson poem titled, “Hope is the Thing with Feathers”.

The next thing I saw was a link to a book by Woody Allen called, “Without Feathers”.

It seemed I was right back where I had started. Thanks a lot, Woody. At least the book is really funny.

So, “Google as a pathway into spiritual enlightenment” having failed, I turned to looking at what some of our leading thinkers among Unitarian Universalists have had to say about hope. I know those of you who have been UU s for a while may not be overly surprised to hear that Unitarian Universalists have had quite a lot to say about it, rather often not agreeing with each other on the subject.

However, I did find much that moved me in reflections on faith and hope from Rebecca Ann Parker, President of our Unitarian Universalist seminary in Berkley, California, as well as those of Sharon Welch, Provost at the seminary I attend in Chicago.

The two have very different philosophical and theological perspectives and yet out of both of them I drew that indeed we must start by embracing the struggle – that hope may be found by realistically acknowledging that suffering and oppression are a part of life, but then seeking to transcend them in several ways:

By steadfastly continuing to act in ways that are loving and life- giving;

By persistently seeking justice; and

By purposefully finding the wisdom we need to sustain ourselves in the voices of those who have suffered oppression people who so often have found ways to restore hope out of hopelessness by creating joy, grace and beauty in day-to-day life. We must also guard against a kind of false hope that can lead to disillusionment and making harmful choices — a hope that seeks certainty, wherein we only have faith if we believe that we can control the outcomes of our actions.

For example, we are faced with the fact that the effects of global climate change are likely to get much worse before they get better, even if the world begins truly acting to try to mitigate them now. Given that, how do we hold onto a hope that can sustain environmental activism? Where do we find the resilience to continue to act, even knowing that we may not be able to prevent great loss?

The answer may lie in embracing this paradox:

Faith can exist only when there is uncertainty.

Hope arises out of what we cannot know – our choosing to act out of love for each other and the web of existence even in the midst of our not knowing, even when we encounter great challenges.

I saw this element of hope — this faith even in the face of an uncertain future – a future clouded by unexpected loss and grief, when I was a chaplain intern at a local Hospital last summer.

I’m changing the details a little to protect the privacy of the people involved, but here is in essence what happened.

I was with the husband and the father of a woman in her early forties who had collapsed near the end of the workday. Despite valiant efforts to revive her, she had died in one of the trauma rooms in the emergency center of the hospital. We learned later that a blood clot had loosened and traveled through her blood system to her heart, likely the result of a long flight she had recently taken to visit her sisters in South America. Her husband and her father were at her bedside, mourning over her now lifeless body.

The family was Catholic and spoke both Spanish and English.

They asked me to contact their Priest to come and say prayers and perform the sacraments in Spanish. They wanted me to stay with them as the rest of the family gathered and they waited on the priest.

Soon after, her daughter and son arrived, both of whom looked like they might be in their late teens or early twenties, followed by other family members. All that I could really do was to be with them, to put a comforting hand on a shoulder sometimes, a provide a soothing voice at others _ at times just stand at the doorway, trying to provide them sanctuary from the noise and commotion of the rest of the emergency center.

After the Priest came and performed the sacraments and a final prayer, I turned to walk him out, when suddenly the husband looked up at me from where he was sitting by her bedside and said, “would you stay with us while we tell her ‘goodbye’?”

I hadn’t even known that he knew I was still in the room. I stayed, of course.

They gathered around her – this mother, this wife, this daughter of theirs. They began to tell stories of her, blending laughter with tears, as they joined together in their love for one another and their love for her, as they one by one said goodbye to her.

The amazing love, the astounding human resilience, the astonishing courage they showed in being able to tell her goodbye, leave that hospital and move forward into an uncertain future bound tightly in their love for one another and their shared memories of her – sometimes, that is faith. Sometimes, that is hope.

Sometimes, hope is finding a way to continue our stories, even up against a struggle that turns toward the tragic at times. Hope is to be found in the fact that we carry forward the stories of even those we have lost _ just as the story of that mother, wife and daughter goes on through her loved ones continuing the telling of it.

Hope is that a grand narrative is still unfolding, and we get to participate in the telling of it, even if in only small ways,

And I think hope involves even a bit more. I think it also compels us to move toward a vision ofthe future, even though we cannot control and may not ever even know what happens in that future,

I think about something my Grandfather did when I reflect on this aspect of hope. My parents divorced when I was young, so my mother’s parents helped raise me and my younger brother and sister while mom was at work. My grandfather, Leo, became very much a father figure for me.

I still carry great love for him. He was a person who loved largely, embracing with true warmth and compassion everyone he met. I love that he would go from hyperkinetic in one moment to having an amazing stillness in the next. I love that he also had a strong vision for living and doing rightly in the world. In fact, the family always joked about how he could sometimes be a little irritating because he wouldn’t hesitate to tell you when he thought you could do something better in life,

That wasn’t really the irritating part though. The really annoying thing was that he was almost always right.

My family still pokes fun at me because they say I am so much like him, though I suspect not nearly as often right! Whether through nature or nurture or both, lowe much of who I have become to him. Another way of saying that is to say that many of his values and much of what mattered to him most live on in me, and I think there is a lot of hope to be found just in that.

To give you some idea of how much of who I am comes from my Grandfather, I want to tell you what happened the first time I brought my partner Wayne to meet my grandparents. I must have been in my thirties at the time. We drove to their house and sat in their living room for several hours, talking and being treated to delicious baked items from my grandmother’s kitchen.

My grandmother had to take us around their yard and show us all of her beautiful flowering plants, and my grandfather had to get out his maps and show us all the places they were going on their next trip (something I find myself subjecting others to even today).

After the visit, we said our goodbyes and got in the car to leave. I noticed that Wayne had this perplexed, maybe even bewildered look on his face.

I asked him, “What is it?”

There was a slight pause, and then he replied, “I feel like I just met an 80 year old YOU.”

To this day, he still tells me that I am “pulling a Leo” from time to time.

After my grandfather died, our family opened his safe where he kept his important papers. In it, we found letters he had written to my grandmother and to their children — my mother and her brother and sister.

In the letters, he spoke of his love for them, the joy they had brought to his life – his delight in who they had become and how they were living their lives. He wrote of his love for his grandchildren and his faith in the lives we would live. He thanked my grandmother for their life together.

Even all these years later, I am still overwhelmed by the fact that he even thought to do that. How much love can one heart possibly hold? How can we call this anything else but hope grounded in boundless and endless love?

Hope is writing letters to the future, even though it is a future that will not include us, at least not in our current form. Hope is writing letters to the future knowing that we may never know whether or how they will be received – never know what difference they may make.

I have to pause here and say, “Thanks, Leo, your letters made a huge difference to me.” It turns out he was right again – because he taught me something else:

The lives we live are our letters to the future. They are our hope for how the story will continue.

Isn’t it remarkable that hope turns out to be contained within how we live our lives in the here and now?

And so, as we leave today and go back out into our daily lives, may we continually be asking ourselves, “What story are we helping to write? What are we putting into our letters to the future?”

Even in the midst of life’s struggles and hardships, we can choose to live grounded in love for all that is, all that came before and all that will follow.

The poet, Adrienne Rich put it like this:

“My heart is moved by all I cannot save: so much has been destroyed. I have to cast my lot with those who age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world. A passion to make, and make again where such un-making reigns.”

And so may we create hope where hope has been lost.

And so, may we dwell in a faith courageous enough to embrace uncertainty.

As we go out into our world today, may we co-create the ever- unfolding story in ways we hope will bend the narrative toward justice, transformation and love.

May an enduring faith sustain us. May love continue to overcome.

May hope abound. Amen.

Offering words

People say, what is the sense of our small effort.

They cannot see that we must lay one brick at a time, take one step at a time.

A pebble cast into a pond causes ripples that spread in all directions. Each one of our thoughts, words and deeds is like that.

No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless.

There is too much work to do.

Benediction

May your days to come be filled with peace and your spirit overflow with boundless and endless love.

Grounded in such love, may your courage rise up and embrace uncertainty as an opportunity and possibility for hope that glimmers eternally and a faith that sustains.

May you know Grace and may you bring Grace into the lives of others. Go in peace. Go in love. Go knowing that part of this place and of this beloved community travel with you until next you return.

Blessed be. Amen.


 

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