What’s so Funny ’bout Peace, Love, and Understanding

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
December 6, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

The election is over and our president elect is calling for unity. How do we do that on a family scale? On a community scale? How do you build relationships with people who you see more clearly now? How do you rebuild relationships with people for whom you may have lost some respect? Can you just move forward without addressing the harm that has been done?

 


 

Chalice Lighting

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Call to Worship

THE WORLD ACCORDING TO MISTER ROGERS
Fred Rogers

It is very dramatic when two people come together to work something out. It is easy to take a gun and annihilate your opposition but what is realy exciting to me is to see people with differing views come together and finally respect each other.

Affirming Our Mission

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Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

STAGES OF CULTURAL COMPETENCE

1. Cultural Destructiveness
2. Cultural Incapacity
3. Cultural Blindness
4. Cultural Pre-Competence
5. Basic Cultural Competence
6. Advanced Cultural Competence

Meditation Reading

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.

-Ralph Waldo Emmerson

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Poetry as Meditation

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
November 29, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

Join Rev. Meg as she explores the idea of meditation through poetry. We will explore lines, writers, and work together to better understand how to find our center through the art of words.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light that we shine upon systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

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WILD GEESE
Mary Oliver

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting-
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

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Medition

CAN YOU DO CONSTRUCTION IN THE RAIN?
by Sage Hirschfeld

Can you do construction in the rain?

Will screws sewn into softened wood hold up,
when earth turns to dry?
When pliable hardens,
and stakes take shapes in unexpected ways.

Will you become brittle when we leave this place?

How does a name forged in open-hearted uncertainty sound
In the light of day
At the grocery store
In your mothers voice.

How will it temper in the open air
When everyone,
and no one at all,
Is listening.

Will it crack?
Or kindle

When moments wedge decades into fractured foundations
Steel whines under weight unexpected
Wind whipped stained glass windows,
turned windchimes

Will you become brittle when we leave this place?
Or simply changed.

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Healing does not equal Cure

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Rev. Chris Jimmerson
November 22, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

Often, we can have a tendency to equate healing with being cured – like when we take a prescribed regimen of a medication and then get better. For trauma and other emotional wounds though, healing is more of an ongoing process, sometimes lifelong, whether individually or socially. We will explore embodied ways of approaching such healing.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine upon systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

PARTNERS IN CARE: MEDICINE AND MINISTRY TOGETHER
Fred Reklau

Cure may occur without healing and healing may occur without cure. Cure alters what is. Healing offers what might be. Cure is an act. Healing is a process. Cure seeks to change reality. Healing embraces reality. Cure takes charge. Healing takes time. Cure avoids grief. Healing assumes grief. Cure speaks. Healing listens.

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

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Meditation Reading

INSTRUCTIONS IN JOY
Rev. Nancy Schafer

“MENDING”

How shall we mend you, sweet Soul?
What shall we use, and how is it
in the first place you’ve come to be torn?
Come sit. Come tell me.
We will find a way to mend you.

I would offer you so much, sweet Soul:
this banana, sliced in rounds of palest
yellow atop hot cereal, or these raisins
scattered through it, if you’d rather.
Would offer cellos in the background singing
melodies Vivaldi heard and wrote
for us to keep. Would hold out to you
everything colored blue or lavender
or light green. All of this I would offer you,
sweet Soul. All of it, or any piece of it,
might mend you.

I would offer you, sweet Soul,
this chair by the window, this sunlight
on the floor and the cat asleep in it.
I would offer you my silence, my presence,
all this love I have,
and my sorrow you’ve become torn.

How shall we mend you, sweet Soul?
With these, I think, gently
we can begin: we will mend you with a rocking
chair, some raisins,
a cat, a field of lavender beginning
now to bloom. We will mend you with songs
remembered entirely the first time
ever they are heard.

We will mend you with pieces of your own
sweet self, sweet Soul – with what you’ve taught
from the very beginning.

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Falling in Love with What is

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
November 15, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

Both Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie, two wisdom teachers of the current age, say that we need to see reality clearly and be present with it in the moment.
“We suffer when our thoughts argue with reality,” Byron Katie writes.
Can this view be compatible with longing for a better world?

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine upon systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

May all beings be well and enjoy the root of happiness free from suffering and the root of suffering. May they not be separated from the joy beyond sorrow. May they dwell in spacious equanimity free from craving, fear, and ignorance.

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

The central task of the religious community is to unveil the bonds that bind each to all. There is a connectedness, a relationship discovered amid the particulars of our own lives and the lives of others. Once felt, it inspires us to act for justice. It is the church that assures us that we are not struggling for justice on our own, but as members of a larger community. The religious community is essential, for alone our vision is too narrow to see all that must be seen, and our strength too limited to do all that must be done. Together, our vision widens and our strength is renewed.

– Mark Morrison Reed

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Science, Imagination, and Magic

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
November 8, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
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A lot of us have experiences with things that are mysterious to us. Can they all be explained by science? Maybe not yet. Do we sometimes behave as if we believe in things which, in our head, we don’t really believe in?

 


 

Chalice Lighting

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“When a distinguished but elderly scientist states that something is possible, he is almost certainly right. When he states that something is impossible, he is very probably wrong. The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible. Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.”

– Arthur C. Clarke

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Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

The different religions confused me. Which was the right one? I tried to figure it out but had no success. It worried me. The different Gods – Catholic, Jewish, Protestant, Mohammedan – seemed very particular in the way in which they expected me to keep on good terms with them. I couldn’t please one without offending the others. One kind soul solved my problem by taking me on my first trip to the planetarium. I contemplated the insignificant flyspeck called Earth, the millions of suns and solar systems, and concluded that whoever was in charge of all this would not throw a fit if I ate ham, or meat on Friday, or did not fast in the daytime during Ramadan. I felt much better after this and was, for a while, keenly interested in astronomy.

– Richard Erdos

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All Souls

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
November 1, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

Honoring the Ancestors. Who are our ancestors? How do we honor them? How might we think of ourselves as ancestors?

 


 

Chalice Lighting

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Call to Worship

GRATITUDE TO MY ANCESTORS

With honor and respect, these eyes see for you
all manner of life you could not have imagined.
My lips move with the rhythm of your words
flowing through me,
my tongue caressing each morsel of wisdom
I am graced to pass on.
Your DNA rides my veins
and with every breath I take,
your cautious steps from the past
toward a fuller life become
bold moves I make toward my destiny.
Together, we wrap arms
around a new generation,
here to become who they were born to be,
to cast their magic as we once did
and bless each day for their ability to do so.
For you, dear ancestors, we live this day.

– Marta I. Valenti
A Long Time Blooming

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

The dead are never gone:
they are in the shadows.
The dead are not in earth:
they’re in the rustling tree,
the groaning wood,
water that runs,
water that sleeps,
they’re in the hut, in the crowd,
the dead are not dead.

The dead are never gone,
they’re in the breast of a woman,
they’re in the crying child,
in the flaming firebrand.
The dead are not in earth:
they’re in the dying fire,
the weeping grasses,
whimpering rocks,
they’re in the forest, they’re in the house,
the dead are not dead.

– Birago Diop

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American Civil Religion

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
October 25, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

How can American evangelicals love our current president with such fervor and passion? We can go back to the early days of the European and British immigrants from the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries. How could you tell if you were one of God’s chosen? You are wealthy and healthy and blessed.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

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I prefer someone who burns the flag and then wraps themselves in the constitution over someone who burns the constitution and wraps themselves in the flag.

– Molly Ivins

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Meditation Reading

THE FIRE NEXT TIME
– James Baldwin

The spreading of the Gospel, regardless of the motives or the integrity or the heroism of some of the missionaries, was an absolutely indispensable justification for the planting of the flag. Priests and nuns and school- teachers helped to protect and sanctify the power that was so ruthlessly being used by people who were indeed seeking a city, but not one in the heavens, and one to be made, very definitely, by captive hands. The Christian church itself – again, as distinguished from some of its ministers – sanctified and rejoiced in the conquests of the flag, and encouraged, if it did not formulate, the belief that conquest, with the resulting relative well-being of the Western populations, was proof of the favor of God.

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Deep Listening

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Rev. Chris Jimmerson
October 18, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
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Listening deeply is a gift that we can give to others. Even more, it is a gift we can give to ourselves.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

WHO WE LISTEN TO IS WHO WE BECOME
Rev. Scott Taylor

Sometimes it can become to loud
it is hard to hear those voices
you once knew so well.
Voices that knew you so well.

It is said that silence heals us,
but silence also holds us together.
So pause while we can
while this sweet sweet space gives us room to listen,
to hear the echos of memories that made us whole.
The pain of others that reawakens our hearts.
The beauty of the wild woods that wants us back.

We don’t just listen for clarity and guidance.
We listen to become larger.
Those voices calling us home
are our home.
We don’t have conversations,
we are our conversations.

We must remember, friends,
who we listen to is who we become.

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

I AM GOD, OF COURSE
Rev. Steve Garnass-Holmes

I looked at the tree blossoming in spring
and said, “Who are you?”
And she said, “I am God, of course, becoming beautiful.”
And I beheld her.

I looked at the sea
and said, “Who are you?”
and the same voice said, “It is I, flowing within you.”
And I opened myself.

I listened to the silence
and said, “Who are you?” and she said, “I am holding you.”
And I listened more.

I looked at my troubles and said, “Who are you?”
and I heard: “I am your own broken heart.”
And I wept with gratitude.

I looked at the suffering of the world
and I asked, “Who are you?”
and she said, “I am in labor pains.”
And I moved closer.

I looked at the unknown and said, “Who are you?”
and the silence said, “I am Becoming,”
and I stepped into the darkness.

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Lessons from the Garden

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
October 11, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
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Experiment, make mistakes, have a vision, know when to work hard and when to step back.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

It didn’t take me long to learn that the discipline or practice of writing these essays occasioned a kind of delight radar. Or maybe it was more like the development of a delight muscle. Something that implies that the more you study delight, the more delight there is to study… I felt my life to be more full of delight. Not without sorrow or fear or pain or loss. But more full of delight. I also learned this year that my delight grows – much like love and joy – when I share it.

– Ross Gay

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

It is not futile to do what we do. We wake up with energy and we do something. And we make, of course, failures and we make mistakes, but we sometimes get glimpses of what we might do next.

– John Cage

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Have smaller fights

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
October 4, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
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We will talk about how to step into a conflict with an open heart, armed with ways to listen and to speak our truth. There are ways to disagree with one another without being disagreeable. Resilient rather than reactive.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.

– Lao Tzu

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

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Meditation Reading

A LITANY FOR SURVIVAL
by Audre Lorde

For those of us who live at the shoreline
standing upon the constant edges of decision
crucial and alone
for those of us who cannot indulge
the passing dreams of choice
who love in doorways coming and going
in the hours between dawns
looking inward and outward
at once before and after
seeking a now that can breed
futures
like bread in our children’s mouths
so their dreams will not reflect
the death of ours;

For those of us
who were imprinted with fear
like a faint line in the center of our foreheads
learning to be afraid with our mother’s milk
for by this weapon
this illusion of some safety to be found
the heavy-footed hoped to silence us
For all of us
this instant and this triumph
We were never meant to survive.

And when the sun rises we are afraid
it might not remain
when the sun sets we are afraid
it might not rise in the morning
when our stomachs are full we are afraid
of indigestion
when our stomachs are empty we are afraid
we may never eat again
when we are loved we are afraid
love will vanish
when we are alone we are afraid
love will never return
and when we speak we are afraid
our words will not be heard
nor welcomed
but when we are silent
we are still afraid

So it is better to speak
remembering
we were never meant to survive.

Sermon

These days we might feel that we are being tumbled in a giant slow-motion dryer. Whoops, we’re upside down again. Ok, I can adjust to that. OH NO, now we’re all upside down again!

Meanwhile, we have to keep our lives going. Things must be cleaned. Families must be loved. Work must be done. All of these things take time. It’s easy to get testy, overwhelmed. When we are testy and overwhelmed on this coronacoaster, if we run into a conflict with someone along the way, it might be that we don’t come at the conflict from the very best and most enlightened part of ourselves. Today we’re going to talk about how to have smaller fights. Let me talk about fighting for a moment. Almost all healthy families have fights.

People learn how to fight from the family they grew up in. Who was allowed to raise their voice? Who was allowed to show anger? How was anger shown? Were there some people who got cold and quiet in their anger? Was there someone who was angry very sweetly, with a smile on their face and a lilt in their voice? Did anyone throw things, or even hit? Did things go to nuclear level quickly, before calm discussion or intense negotiation?

We learn from how we grew up. As adults we adjust as we learn new things. I spent 15 years as a couples counselor, and I’ve seen a lot of different ways of making fights big.

How do you have a big fight? How do you escalate a disagreement into a fight?

 

    • 1. You tell the other person what they think, feel, or believe. You saw this if you watched the debate. “You want to do blah blah blah,” or “You think blah blah is a good idea.” In my family growing up, this technique was expressed with an affectionate disappointed look. “You don’t think THAT!?”

 

 

    • 2. You take what someone said and go to the extreme. I say “Black Lives Matter,” and someone else says “Oh, so….” (A SURE fire escalation technique is “oh, so….”) “Oh, so white lives don’t matter at all? Law enforcement lives don’t matter at all?” Not what I said. Why did you hear “only BLM?” “Oh, so” is also used to start sentences where you tell the other person how they think, feel, or believe. See method of escalation number one.

 

 

    • 3. You tell the other person to calm down. This never helps a fight get smaller.

 

 

    • 4. If this is a family disagreement, a good escalation technique is to tell someone they are just like their father. Or just like their mother.

 

 

  • 5. Bring up things that happened long ago, that can’t be helped.

 

Now that I’ve told you 5 techniques for escalating a fight, it’s only fair that I tell some ways to make them smaller.

 

    • 1. Remember that most people, when disagreeing, are scared. This passage from Hillbilly Elegy describes the mind of one person who holds trauma in their body.

 

 

For kids like me, the part of the brain that deals with stress and conflict is always activated… We are constantly ready to fight or flee, because there is a constant exposure to the bear, whether that bear is an alcoholic dad or an unhinged mom (p228)…. I see conflict and I run away or prepare for battle. (p246)

 

J.D. Vance, Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis

 

 

    • 2. Remember that almost everyone has weak stitches, broken places. My friend Joanna Fontaine Crawford, the minister up north of here at Live Oak UU, describes trauma as everyone having a little shard of glass somewhere in their body/mind/spirit, and the only way to know where it is is by bumping it by accident. Especially now, as our country feels the strain of increasing polarization and a violent backlash against ant-racism movements, people are wound up.

 

 

    • 3. Try to think: Resilient, not reactive. Reactive is when we come back at someone so fast it feels like it didn’t even come from our brain, that it came straight from our body. Can we be resilient enough to be quiet for a moment when someone is saying something uncomfortable. If you get defensive, there is no shame in that, because we all want to defend ourselves and the values we hold dear. But maybe give it five minutes so you can really understand what the other person is trying to say. Resilience takes practice.

 

 

    • 4. Maybe ask a few questions before you respond. “Help me understand,” or “How did you come to this?” Or, if they’re telling you about something you did that hurt them, develop the resilience to ask “Tell me how it felt for you, when I said that.” Instead of “I didn’t mean it like that,” or “You’re so sensitive,” or “I’m insulted that you even thought I could mean something like that.” Or I’m sorry! I SAID I’m sorry, so drop it!”

 

 

  • 5. Remember that at the root of most fights is the question: “Am I loveable?”

 

Let me close by repeating the call to worship reading this morning from Lao Tsu

In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.

– Lao Tzu

 


 

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Forgiveness

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
September 27, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

Forgiveness isn’t easy. Sometimes we can only make a beginning in our process of forgiving others or even ourselves. If you will, please bring a little piece of ribbon or string with you when you join us for worship. We will use knots in the ribbon to represent the knots in our spirit that holding a grudge creates.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

Nelson Mandela
On his release from prison after 27 years

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind I’d still be in prison.”

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Rest, Renew, Reimagine

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Rev. Chris Jimmerson
September 13, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

During times of anxiety and stress, we often need more rest. Physical, mental and spiritual renewal can become even more important for us. We’ll explore stories of renewal, ways we might find it and how sometimes when our life circumstances change dramatically, we may be able to reimagine ourselves.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

“Anyone can slay a dragon,” she told me. “But try waking up very morning and loving the world all over again. That’s what makes a real hero.”

– Brian Andreas (Kai Skye)

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

Excerpted from
THINGS THAT JOIN THE SEA AND THEY SKY: FIELD NOTES ON LIVING
by Mark Nepo (Sounds True, 2017)

By midmorning, I take Zuzu, our yellow Lab, for a walk. It’s there that the trees and birds begin to speak. Or rather, I begin to listen, as they’ve been sharing their secrets constantly. Most mornings, I see birds tending and feeding their young, flying to and fro with twigs, or pecking at the ground for seed. They’re always building and mending their makeshift nests. Much like us, going to and fro to gas up the car, and pay the bills, and get the tools we need to patch the roof. Endless tasks that keep us a part of life.

Today, we went for our walk a little closer to noon. The sun was everywhere and things seemed extra close. Perhaps my mind was more empty and my heart more full, but the tulips just opening and the wind ruffling the budding leaves seemed Eden-like. Then I saw a single bird perched atop the very tip of an enormous blue spruce. So easily balanced, it looked out on the world it would have to return to. Then I saw another perched atop an old oak. The birds pausing from their tasks became silent teachers, saying without saying that we need to fall in love with the ordinary rhythms of life, again and again. And when the tasks are done or have become too heavy to complete, we need to pause and perch atop our worries and concerns. So we can return to the world and do what needs to be done, until what sustains us reveals itself like the inside of a seed cracked by our beak.

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Be a Stream and Not a Swamp

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
September 6, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

Autumn is upon us, school is starting back up, and we hope life is getting back to as regular a rhythm as can be in these days. All of that means it is time for us to gather together and share water communion. Join Rev. Meg as she speaks about letting joy flow through us rather than binding it to us and holding it all for ourselves.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

A LITTLE PRINCESS
Frances Hodgson Burnett

If nature has made you for a giver your hands are born open and so is your heart. Although, there may be times when our hands are empty, your heart is always full and you can give things out of that. Warm things, kind things, sweet things. Help and comfort and laughter. And sometimes gay, kind laughter is the best help of all.

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

AT HOME – A SHORT HISTORY OF PRIVATE LIFE
Bill Bryson

Originally the cellar served primarily as a cold store. Today, it holds the boiler, idle suit cases, out-of-season sporting equipment and many sealed cardboard boxes that are almost never opened; that are are alway carefuly transfered from house-to-house with every move in the belief that one day someone might want some baby clothes that have been kept in a box for twenty-five years.

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Balancing Acts

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Rev. Chris Jimmerson
August 30, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

In this time of Covid-19 and witnessing the violent treatment of protestors, it can seem hard to find our balance. Especially when the protestors are rising up against the violence and other horrible things being directed at black, brown and native people in the first place. Sometimes, we tend to think of balance as a sense of peace and calm, but perhaps balance also means accepting our fear, pain, anger and desire for justice in our world.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

I arrive in the morning torn betwen a desire to improve or save the world and a desire to enjoy or savor the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.

– E.B. White

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

DON’T JUST DO SOMETHING, SIT THERE
– Sylvia Bernstein

Equanimity doesn’t mean keeping things even. It is the capacity to return to balance in the midst of an alert response to life. I don’t want to be constantly calm. The cultural context I grew up in and the relational life I live both call for a passionate engaged response. I laugh and I cry and I’m glad that I do. What I value is the capacity to be balanced between times.

Sermon

Some days you eat salads and go to the gym. Some days you eat cupcakes and refuse to put on pants.

It’s called balance.

That’s a social media meme by a very spiritual and wise woman named Rita. O. Jackson.

I loved it when our senior minister Meg sent it to me, because I think that in a humorous way, it so perfectly illustrates one of the seeming paradoxes of our topic today – finding balance, equanimity, harmony in life.

Sometimes we have to to through feeling out of sorts, experience the difficult emotions in order to grow and find even greater life balance.

I’ll come back to this later; however, I think I would be remiss, if in examining balance, I were not to begin by exploring the social unrest, the struggles for justice and the state-sanctioned violence being directed at those rising up to demand justice that are happening in our country right now.

Justice is often represented, symbolized, by Lady Justice holding up the scales of equity. This image is rooted in ancient Egyptian, Greek and, later, Roman Goddesses, who all carried out concepts associated with justice.

It’s interesting that our ancient ancestors seemed to think that females would best embody the balance of justice.

Today in the United States, those scales of justice are greatly imbalanced. They are imbalanced related to gender, gender identity, class, race, sexual orientation and so much more.

On one side of the scale, it is heavily weighted toward those who enjoy privilege, power, wealth and other resources.

The other side of the scale it is swinging haphazardly in the air, because there are too many folks for whom oppression affords them far less justice, far less privilege, far less access to power, wealth and other resources.

We have folks that own more than one mansion, yachts and expensive cars in the dozens, many of which they rarely if ever drive.

Do folks really need all of that, when in the meantime, we have people losing their housing, unable to provide the necessities of life for their families, unable to access healthcare when they or their loved ones get sick?

All of this greatly exacerbated by the pandemic, while the US Senate does nothing to keep their aide going.

But perhaps the scales of justice are out of equilibrium nowhere more greatly than in the systemic racism that pervades the very institutions of our society.

In particular, protests have arisen over law enforcement’s use of lethal force against black, brown and native American people.

In response to these demonstrations, the police have often inflicted violence against mostly peaceful protestors. They’ve labeled the protests as riots, even though much of the violence has in fact been committed by white supremacists who infiltrate the protests and initiate violence and other acts of destruction.

AND, even if that’s not always the case, as my colleague Misha Sanders recently wrote, “‘It’s sad that the police shot that man, but that doesn’t excuse burning things down.’ Stop right there. How about this instead: ‘It’s sad that things are burning down, but the police shouldn’t have shot that man.’ There, that’s better.”

Most recently, we have witnessed the police shooting of Jacob Blake after some kind of domestic disturbance. They shot him seven times in the back in front of his three young children as he tried to get into his SUV. He is currently paralyzed from the waist down and fighting for his life. Yet, the police have him handcuffed to his hospital bed.

We don’t know all the facts yet. Some reports claim that Blake may have had a knife. Still, how can that possibly justify shooting him in the back in front of his small children?

Funny how we never seem to hear about police shooting a white person in the back (or kneeling on their neck until they suffocate).

Of course, some folks claim that this is because of bias in news reporting.

No. The statistics have no bias. The statistics tells us we don’t hear about police shooting a white person, even if they do have a knife, because the police are so much less likely do so with white folks.

They are far more likely to use deescalation techniques instead.

And so we have to ask ourselves why, instead of using these same deescalation techniques, police so often use lethal force against our black, brown and native American siblings.

The scales of justice are profoundly out of balance.

Lady justice is weeping.

So, to build the Beloved Community, we must struggle to right these imbalances. And to sustain this struggle, I think requires us to try to seek harmony in our own lives. Creating balance may mean, we have to both savor and save the world.

And finding such balance is also a part of our own well-being and life-satisfaction.

Recently, I posted on Facebook, asking, “where are you finding balance in life these days?”

Here is a summary of many of the responses:

  • Getting outside, enjoying nature, gardening, hikes and walks, observing beauty.
  • Community, relationship, family, friends, loved ones, fellow church members.
  • Working out, water aerobics, various other forms of exercise.
  • Reading, learning new concepts and skills, listening to music, enjoying the arts.
  • Meditation, Yoga, Tai Chi, mindfulness.
  • Stopping for rest, taking naps.
  • Giving oneself projects, clearing out living spaces of what is not needed, setting up new routines to replace those we lost when the pandemic hit.

Notice how many of these could be thought of as spiritual practices.

Now, in all fairness, some of the Facebook comments ran in bit different direction, as epitomized by the following: “Balance? What balance? I’m an anxious ball of ever-evolving existential crisis!” And, “I’m no longer sure what balance means. Truthfully, I’d be much better balanced with a haircut.” And I loved this one, “I go lie down in the garden. You can’t fall off. It smells complicated. The bugs are good company. Sometimes I even lie face up!”

Several other folks mentioned a feeling of being on a seesaw or rollercoaster, experiencing ups and downs, feelings of trying to do too much and then not doing enough, tipping too hard in one direction and then too hard in the other.

These folks expressed a sense of only glimpsing balance in mid-swing of the seesawing.

And I think this is important too. Especially during challenging times such as these, we will have moments…or days…or weeks when we feel out of balance. That’s only natural. How can parents trying to decide what to do about their children’s education while often trying to work, maintain a home and find a moment for self care not feel out of sorts sometimes?

The thing is, we’re often sold this mirage that having balance means always feeling calm, collected and serene.

Some days though, we need to eat cupcakes and refuse to put on pants.

And yet, life can seem imbalanced when we experience feelings like discomfort about facing uncertainty, sorrow at witnessing so many lives lost, anger over the proliferation of injustices.

I wonder though, if these emotions might also be potential sources of growth – a new, richer sense of balance.

Now, this certainly is not always the case. We have to acknowledge in some instances that things are just bad.

Sometimes though, discomfort can lead to transformation.

I think, especially during difficult times, we can also feel really imbalanced when we judge ourselves too harshly – set unrealistic expectations for ourselves.

I suspect that this may be especially true among Unitarian Universalists.

I know it is among me, myself and I!

To counter this, I turn to my favorite social work professor and author, Brene Brown.

Brown encourages us to realize that other folks are “doing the best they can with the tools that they have.”

Maybe, we can extend that same graciousness to ourselves.

We are enough. We, each of us, are doing the best we can with the tools that we have.

And we can still try to expand our toolkit, while also offering ourselves that grace along the way.

There is so much more I would love to say about balance; however, in the interest of leaving you time to balance the activities of your day, I’ll close by returning to those Facebook comments about finding balance through community, relationship, loved ones.

I think this applies very deeply with our church community.

We can help each other know harmony.

My beloveds, we are sacred companions on a holy journey together, as we seek to know and co-create the divine.

 


 

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Chalice Circles: Deepening Connection

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Rev. Meg Barnhouse
August 23, 2020
First UU Church of Austin
4700 Grover Ave., Austin, TX 78756
www.austinuu.org

While we are approaching things differently with Chalice Circles, they still remain an integral part of our community and individual spiritual growth and development. Chalice Circles help us tell our stories. What happens and what do our stories say what happens? Let us explore the idea of story, courage, community, and connection through Chalice Circles.

 


 

Chalice Lighting

This is the flame we hold in our hearts as we strive for justice for everyone. This is the light we shine on systems of oppression until they are no more. This is the warmth we share with one another as our struggle becomes our salvation.

Call to Worship

FRAGILE THINGS: SHORT FICTION AND WONDERS
– Neil Gaiman

Do not lose hope.
What you seek will be found.
Trust ghosts.
Trust those who you have helped to help you in their turn.
Trust dreams.
Trust your heart.
Trust your story.

Affirming Our Mission

Together we nourish souls, transform lives, and do justice to build the Beloved Community.

Learn more about Beloved Community at this link. – The King Center

Meditation Reading

What hapens is of little significance compared to the stories we tell ourselves about what happened. Events matter little. Only stories of events affect us.

– Rabih Alameddine

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